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So, you’re into a good friend’s sister. She’s single, hot, and in your area, as the Internet would say. And you want to ask her out, and you want my help. This is a terrible situation. It might be less terrible if you carefully read this ten-step guide. Here’s what you should do: 1. Maybe Don’t Listen. I know that sparkly “this girl is special” feeling.
I know it very well. It’s extremely compelling. But as you age, you’ll realize that there are a lot of people who will give you this feeling. You’ll meet many, many people you’ll have crushes on. (This can be inconvenient.) What’s less common is real friendship. It’s hard to make a real and happen at any stage in life. And that becomes truer the older you get.
Even if you could have a fantastic relationship with this girl, it might not be worth it, considering that such a relationship would certainly alter your friendship, and might kill it off. 2. Make Sure You’re Interested Okay, you still want to go ahead. Well, first, you should make sure that you’re actually interested in this girl.
That might sound patronizing, like I’m telling you that your dick is lying to you, or something. This is not my intent. What I’m saying is that you should disentangle the question of whether you’re attracted to her -- I’m sure she’s hot -- from whether you actually think she’s interesting.
And this can be hard to figure out, as a sufficient level of arousal can make every person of every gender think their potential lover is the most interesting person in the world. So, is she actually cool? Or does she just rustle your proverbial jimmy? 3. Make Sure She’s Interested And, perhaps more importantly, is there the slightest sign that she’s into you? Men tend to overestimate the interest level of hot girls, because emotion is contagious.
(“Of course she’s into me, otherwise why would she be acting so attractively?”) See whether there are actually clear . Classic signs include lots of eye contact, acting flustered around you, laughing a lot at literally every dumb thing you’re saying, etc.
These aren’t infallible signals, but they’re a start. 4. Spend Platonic Time Together First Usually, the first date is a casing-out process.
It exists so you can figure out whether the person who has so entranced you from across the bar will actually entrance you once you’ve had a single conversation with them.
Often, this is not true, which is why the first date is a valuable no-stakes screening procedure. Unfortunately, you don’t have the luxury of a no-stakes . One date with this girl could have a huge effect on your friendship. So, you should do some preliminary examination first. Make an excuse to hang out with her in a totally platonic setting. Do some sort of vaguely excusable professional coffee. Tell her you want to plan a surprise party with your brother.
Whatever. Just get two hours to chill out with her, and see whether your perceived chemistry is a real thing -- if you have the kind of bubbly, clicky conversation that we all dream about. If so, and if you still want to go ahead, then you have to take the painful next step.
5. Tell Your Friend Yes, tell your friend that you plan to ask her sister out. Don’t ask. It’s creepy to ask your friend whether you’re permitted to date your sister. She’s her own person, and if she wants to go out with you, whatever the consequences, she should be able to. But be aware that your friend might freak out, throw a drink in your face, put you in a triangle choke, and spend all night writing your name in his blood on the wall of his holding cell after he gets arrested.
Or he could be totally cool with it. But there are some nasty possibilities here. 6. Ask Her Out Whew! Finally, it’s dating time. Now, just ask her out, like you would any other woman.
Which is to say, suggest alcohol at a time and place, without apology, hesitation, or further explanation. There’s no need to mention her brother, unless she asks about it. In fact, brother may have told her what you’re up to in advance. If that means she says no, she would’ve said no anyway.
Time to move on. (Maybe you should’ve read steps 1-4 more closely.) 7. Treat Her Right Now, if she does go out with you, for God’s sake, be a good human. If you haven’t spoiled your friendship at this point, you absolutely will if you act like a f*ckboy. (Besides, you shouldn’t act like that anyway.) You shouldn’t need me to tell you what that means.
But if you do: don’t just ghost if you lose interest. Don’t mislead her by telling her you’re looking for someone to settle down with if you have no such intentions. Just be honest, forthright, and remember that oral sex is your responsibility, too. 8. Don’t Dwell on the Brother Thing You shouldn’t spend a heck of a lot of time talking with her about whether you feel weird about the fact that she’s your friend’s sister, how this might affect your friendship, etc.
By all means, engage her in discussion about it if she brings it up. But otherwise, you’re just poking a hornet’s nest. Every couple has weird stuff they don’t talk about -- ongoing areas of discomfort, or recurring fights -- and this will be one of yours, probably. The ideal of talking about everything all the time is an ideal promoted by idiots who have never been in a relationship.
9. Be Discreet Know how you told all your buddies about how Michelle was a total freak who fulfilled all of your perverted schoolgirl fantasies? Well, that’s a bad habit in general, because it might have gotten back to Michelle, and she probably didn’t appreciate you broadcasting her private life for your social gratification. And this is an even worse habit in this situation. Have great, freaky sex with your buddy’s sister? That’s awesome. It’s also your business and her business, not anyone else’s.
If you say anything, and it gets back to your buddy, he’s going to be seriously grossed out. He knows that you’re screwing his sister, but he’s trying not to think about it. 10. Keep Your Friendship Going Finally, if you’ve made it this far, don’t forget about your initial friendship.
Men in new love tend to disappear into their new romantic relationships and forget about their bros. This is an unhealthy thing to do in general, and doubly so in this case. If you stop hanging out with your friend, he’ll think you were hanging out with him just so you’d have a chance of getting with his sister. And that’s not true, right? Right?
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At twelve years old, Claire Barker developed a massive crush on her best friend Sarah’s older sister, the handsome, butch Alex Williams. Now twenty-seven and a successful entrepreneur, Claire’s interest hasn’t waned—despite Alex’s fashion photography At twelve years old, Claire Barker developed a massive crush on her best friend Sarah’s older sister, the handsome, butch Alex Williams.
Now twenty-seven and a successful entrepreneur, Claire’s interest hasn’t waned—despite Alex’s fashion photography career keeping her overseas for months at a time. When Alex moves home unexpectedly, she and Claire end up enjoying a surprise, wine-fueled reunion that alters their relationship forever. Are Claire’s dreams about to come true, or will real life prove to be more complicated than her fantasies?
Get a copy • • • For those not yet initiated into Meghan O'Brien reads, they're basically porn. Depending on the book, you may get more or less plot, kind of like the side of veggies you get with your entree. But, make no mistake, the entree is erotica. 'Her Best Friend's Sister' is no except For those not yet initiated into Meghan O'Brien reads, they're basically porn.
Depending on the book, you may get more or less plot, kind of like the side of veggies you get with your entree. But, make no mistake, the entree is erotica. 'Her Best Friend's Sister' is no exception.
On my e-reader, which has the book at a total of 376 pages, the first 121 pages are one extended love scene. Yeah, pretty incredible, really. And then once that scene is officially over we get a half dozen more of similar ilk, but definitely with new variety, throughout the book. It's all well done, though.
Some other readers had a problem with the lack of build up to the first scene or the twirling the mustache villain ex-girlfriend or even lack of plot... I didn't have the same experience. I thought O'Brien did a decent enough job getting the backstory into the opening pages to feel for Claire's POV, at least. And crazy does exist so the ex-girlfriend, though extreme, isn't exactly unrealistic, either. Maybe I've met too many crazy people. And by crazy people, I don't disparage the mentally ill...I'm talking about the walking personality disorders that never get help and make everyone else's life miserable.
I was actually pleasantly surprised on where O'Brien took the plot because I could see the set up for a lot of tropes that were immediately quelled, taking us in a refreshing direction. She did this by making Alex (Claire's love interest and the sister of her best friend) the most honest and forthright character I've seen in lesfic.
So, what the read delivers: erotica, romance (that mainly takes place in the bedroom ::points back at 'erotica'::), a realistic best-friend jealousy situation when Claire starts dividing her time between the two sisters, a meddling crazy ex-girlfriend, set ups for angst that are short-lived, and of course, a happily ever after... It's almost too squee. Well, actually, yes it's heavy on the syrup. If that sounds up your alley, it's well written, and a smooth ride...I mean read. • • This book is in my recommended books of the month First of all, a word of warning for those readers who haven't read anything by this author.
This book could be categorised as erotica as much as romance. Putting it in the romance catego This book is in my recommended books of the month First of all, a word of warning for those readers who haven't read anything by this author. This book could be categorised as erotica as much as romance. Putting it in the romance category as the publisher did could be misleading for those readers who don't know Meghan O'Brien as the excellent f/f erotic writer that she is.
This book won't disappoint her fans as more than half of the book describe sex scenes: they are varied, explicit and, of course, hot. The main characters, Alex, a butch photographer, and Claire, a femme software developer, have great sexual chemistry. I would have rated this book higher if this chemistry would have transferred to the romantic aspects of the plot. The romance was lacking. Additionally, the secondary characters are portrayed with different success: while Alex's sister is multilayered and authentic, the ex girlfriend is a bit stereotyped and unrealistic.
3.5 stars rounded up to 4. Overall, an entertaining erotica read. ARC provided by the publisher and Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. See all my reviews at • • Ohhhhh my lord, I dare you to try and find a hotter new release this year. I mean, for sure Meghan O’Brien has written some of the steamiest books I’ve ever read, and Her Best Friend’s Sister tops them all.
I think part of why her erotic romances are so satisfying is that th Ohhhhh my lord, I dare you to try and find a hotter new release this year. I mean, for sure Meghan O’Brien has written some of the steamiest books I’ve ever read, and Her Best Friend’s Sister tops them all.
I think part of why her erotic romances are so satisfying is that they’re as heavy on the romance as they are on the erotic side of things, so I end up fully investing in the relationships and am always cheering for her couples by the end of their books. The sex in Her Best Friend’s Sister is varied in terms of both acts as well as Alex and Claire’s behaviours. This means that the “what” and “how” changes as their relationship progresses and Claire gains confidence, which works very well and ensures that the sex is never just there to fill pages.
Full review (The Lesbian Review): Full review (Smart Bitches Trashy Books): • • This is a book similar to and somehow. The main characters have this insecurity yet they are aparently so capable and succesful women.
I can't figure out some of their actions and reactions. Anyway, the story is, in line with most of This is a book similar to and somehow.
The main characters have this insecurity yet they are aparently so capable and succesful women. I can't figure out some of their actions and reactions. Anyway, the story is, in line with most of books, very original and full of sex. Colorful sex. Explicitly explained and extended sex. Pretty much the story revolves around the sexual sceenes between Claire and Alex. If you have enjoyed the latest books of this author, this one will not disapoint you. • • This is an erotic romance with the first 30% being one extended sex scene.
A reasonable story follows but if you want a slow build-up and a strong plot culminating in the characters' expression of love, this is not the book for you. Claire has been in love with her best frie This is an erotic romance with the first 30% being one extended sex scene.
A reasonable story follows but if you want a slow build-up and a strong plot culminating in the characters' expression of love, this is not the book for you. Claire has been in love with her best friend Sarah's sister, Alex since she was twelve. Now a renowned photographer, Alex has decided to return home for the foreseeable future so Claire, successful in her own right, might just get her chance to express her feelings. O'Brien is a good writer of erotica but I would have liked a little more plot but I'm okay with what was there.
I discovered I have a new pet peeve, though. Alex referred to Claire as Claire-Claire and it irritated me beyond measure that I nearly removed a star from my rating. We all call our partners stupid pet names but I really don't like them on paper or in a novel. All it did was make her seem like she was 12 again when in fact a five year age gap when you're 27 and 32 is not really a gap at all.
• • Whatever you do, don’t read "Her Best Friend’s Sister” in public, and don’t play the audio in your car with the windows down! We’re introduced to MC Claire telling her best friend’s cat ”I’ve got a hot date with my hands this evening that I simply can’t miss” What Claire doesn Whatever you do, don’t read "Her Best Friend’s Sister” in public, and don’t play the audio in your car with the windows down!
We’re introduced to MC Claire telling her best friend’s cat ”I’ve got a hot date with my hands this evening that I simply can’t miss” What Claire doesn’t know is that her best friend’s older sister, MC Alex, has just arrived and is listening to her! Things heat up dramatically from there, and the first third of the book+ is virtually non-stop steamy and explicit sex. For a ten-hour book, that’s A LOT of action!!
The rest of the book introduces a bit of plot, and allows the characters to interact outside of the bedroom (and the sofa, and the shower, and….!)….while introducing even more varied and entertaining sex between the MCs! For the most part, Claire, Alex and sister/BFF Sarah are very likable. Alex’s ex-gf Vanessa is written so over-the-top stalkery that she’s very entertaining.
One GR friend described her as being two laughs shy of being a Disney villainess! “Her Best Friend’s Sister” was published about six weeks after Meghan O’Brien’s short story “The Client”, which also features hot sex between two women who are reunited after having known each other for a decade. With the longer format, HBFS allows MO’B to further describe the MCs, and explore their relationship with friends, family and each other outside of the bedroom.
For the most part, the expanded format worked. The characters are all insecure, and they do what is so often missing from lesfic: they talk with each other about their insecurities and they learn to balance attraction with those insecurities.
If anything, perhaps the book was TOO long, as the insecurity issues arose over and over and over. At some point I wondered if Alex might give up on Claire ever believing her sincerity. Alex was the most believable of the three. Claire was surprisingly empathetic and skilled at talking for someone presented as a socially anxious super smart computer geek.
My favorite quote from Claire was during the first morning-after, when Alex asked if she regretted the night before: “Definitely not! You’re about to discover that this shy exterior has been perfectly crafted to conceal a downright filthy sexual appetite” Sarah was a mixed bag, though that was somewhat explained toward the end. Early in the book, Sarah walked in on Alex and Claire’s doggystyle strapon play, and then encouraged them to have fun as long as they didn't break each other’s hearts.
Pretty understanding, eh? Later, she was goofier than the ex-gf with her anger and jealousy at no longer being central in Claire’s life.
Errr….single women sometimes go a bit nutty at becoming a third wheel….but married women? Oh well, that drama and angst was pretty minor. Even more unrealistic was Alex’s featured photographs at her exhibit. Really? In our easily available graphic porn on the internet world, people are really going to pay lots of money for closeup vjay photos?
Well, as they say, nice work if you can get it ;) Faith Clarke is the same narrator as MO’B used for “Camp Rewind”, and I liked her even better here! What a perfect voice for an erotic novel!!! 4* for the storyline, 5*+ for the very enjoyable action scenes, 5*+ for the narration: 5* overall for one of the steamiest books I’ve ever listened to! • • Detailed score: 4.0 Overall, I thought this was actually really well done for its genre (erotic romance) and IMHO undeserving of its (currently) low average waiting (in the low 3s as I write).
Having said that, it won't be for everyone. Here are some points that might help mak Detailed score: 4.0 Overall, I thought this was actually really well done for its genre (erotic romance) and IMHO undeserving of its (currently) low average waiting (in the low 3s as I write). Having said that, it won't be for everyone. Here are some points that might help make the decision. - the book has a lot. A. Lot. Of pwoarrr scenes -- even by O'Brien's standards (which is saying something!).
O'Brien is v good at mixing it up though so it's rarely pwoarrr just for the sake of it -- and if you don't like one scene, chances are there's one you do like just around the corner - the dynamic is very butch/femme. Lots of 'good girl' and 'boi' references. Having said that, this isn't my favourite dynamic to read yet there was enough background to the characters that I could still enjoy the interaction(s) - this is definitely an erotic romance, but the romance is there - For a relatively short, erotica-centered, book I thought the secondary character of Sarah was well done and added some nice depth to what could have been a one note book Finally, I echo the warning of an earlier reviewer...
do not start reading this book in a public place!! • • I actually had trouble finishing this! That was a big surprise! I've read several other books by Meghan and loved all of them (except for which I started ages ago and did not finish). In fact I've read twice and plan on reading it again, this time I actually had trouble finishing this!
That was a big surprise! I've read several other books by Meghan and loved all of them (except for which I started ages ago and did not finish). In fact I've read twice and plan on reading it again, this time leaving a review and changing its rating to 5*. Having read the blurb of this book I had high hopes but once I started it, I realized very quickly that this was just not going to work for me.
It felt like there were a few chapters or even a prologue missing at the beginning of the book to establish the relationship and even more important, set up the chemistry between Alex and Claire. Instead we're immediately thrown into a long and extensive sex scene right after them catching up after dinner. The other main thing that just downright irritated me was the "crazy ex girlfriend".
I mean this woman is two evil laughs away from being a Disney villain and in my opinion was just thrown in to create an insane type of drama. Even going so far as to saying something to Claire in an angry bout that I would rather not even repeat here, although i'm sure those of you who have read the book know exactly what I'm talking about.
Last but not least and this part is purely based on my personal preference so try not to kill me for this. [ Alex became a little too butch for my taste and the dirty talk stemming from that at certain points just made me cringe which then made me skim through those scenes as fast as possible. While I enjoy reading about butch-femme relationships, this was not one of those cases.
] • • ARC provided by NetGalley in return for an honest review. This was almost my first DNF by this author. I've read most of Meghan's stories, including her online stuff, but this one, on the heels of Camp Rewind, has me rethinking this policy. If she writes an actual romance (w ARC provided by NetGalley in return for an honest review. This was almost my first DNF by this author. I've read most of Meghan's stories, including her online stuff, but this one, on the heels of Camp Rewind, has me rethinking this policy.
If she writes an actual romance (which this was billed as) then I might give it a go, but this is straight up erotica. I'm also not a fan of the use of the 'p' word (I assume I can't use the actual word in a review), I know everyone is different, and it may not bother some, used sparingly it doesn't bother me that much either, I'm not a prude, it just does nothing for me.
But it's in this book a lot, which I found off-putting. And to be honest, I found nothing 'erotic' or 'sexy' about showing a woman naked pictures you've taken of other women, yourself, and yourself having sex with an ex.
Yeah, we'll call that a no. There's also insta-love declarations, which, even though the characters have known each other for years, I found a bit much. After that, it's pretty much sex, sex and more sex. This is interspersed with Alex's ex being a bitch, Alex and Claire being bitches to Alex's sister, Alex's ex being a bitch again, and the two of them revisiting their insecurities (although mostly Claire's) over and over.
I also found Alex's job a bit... I don't want to say sleazy, because she is a professional photographer, but I for sure would not want to date a woman who regularly asks for (and receives) naked photos of other women. Just no. This is probably one of my least favourite O'Brien books, I think I'll have to take a 'read the reviews first' policy before reading one of her books again, I enjoy a bit more plot than she's provided in the last two I've read.
• • This book had me gripped from the start of chapter one. From the moment this book begins it’s just nothing but sexual tension and exploration… and boy did I enjoy it! It was filled with all the things I love about Meghan O’Brien’s books which are filled with Sex, Love and in This book had me gripped from the start of chapter one.
From the moment this book begins it’s just nothing but sexual tension and exploration… and boy did I enjoy it! It was filled with all the things I love about Meghan O’Brien’s books which are filled with Sex, Love and intimacy.
I have never read an author that writes a sex scene like Meghan O’Brien. It’s like she goes into my brain and pulls out my highest sexual desires. If you’re interested in a fairy tale romance with no ups and downs and with very little sex till the end, then this book is not for you.
You may want to check out something a little less sexually driven. The book was written completely from Claire’s point of view. Meghan O’Brien wrote it extremely well, leaving no doubt in the readers mind about Alex’s feelings for Claire however (and this is my only negative) I would have appreciated Alex’s point of view when she was interacting with the secondary characters, especially her sister and her ex girlfriend.
We have two main protagonists in this book, Claire and Alex. Claire has been in love with her best friend’s sister Alex for most of her adult life. When one night Alex invites Claire to stay for an innocent dinner her whole life changes when the night takes a turn for the better.
Claire doesn’t think she deserves Alex from the get go but these woman are made for each other. At times you wonder why Claire has such wild insecurities about Alex but then Meghan O’Brien writes these moments that give you a little background about Alex’s life Pre-Claire and I myself would feel certain insecurities about my relationship. Alex is the ultimate butch, you could even say the complete butch package but she has these moments where she is unguarded, insecure and sensitive which adds another element to her dynamic that I just adore.
It also gives more detail about Alex because the book is written solely from Claire’s point of view. The connection both protagonists have from the beginning is undeniable but the love Alex has for Claire is truely beautifully written. She leaps over every hurdle to be with Claire while continuously reassuring Claire of her love and desire. Meghan O’Brien can create such erotic scenes with such a high level of intimacy and love. This is something not many authors can do.
I read a lot of erotic romance and normally you either get great erotic sex scenes or great love scenes, not often is an author able to produce both. The sex talk between the characters from the beginning really had my heart pumping and the dialogue was oozing sexiness. she also creates characters with real insecurities that make them feel more life like.
I would love to hang out with all of her characters although I'm not sure my wife would trust me alone with some of them and Alex tops the list. I adore this novel and it will head to my favourite list along with so many Meghan O’Brien books. The only thing I’d change is the writing style as I would have enjoyed more of Alex’s point of view. If you like novels with erotic love scenes, angst and love then this is for you.
Rating: 4.5 Stars • • Born in a suburb of Detroit, Michigan, Meghan O’Brien relocated to Northern California in 2005. As a transplant, she enjoys the moderate weather and gorgeous scenery of the Bay Area. Meghan lives with her wife, their son, three cats, three dogs, two snakes and several tarantulas. Yes, it can be just as chaotic as it sounds.
Meghan’s day job is as a software developer, but her real passion is writin Born in a suburb of Detroit, Michigan, Meghan O’Brien relocated to Northern California in 2005. As a transplant, she enjoys the moderate weather and gorgeous scenery of the Bay Area. Meghan lives with her wife, their son, three cats, three dogs, two snakes and several tarantulas. Yes, it can be just as chaotic as it sounds.
Meghan’s day job is as a software developer, but her real passion is writing. From her humble beginnings creating numerous “books” out of construction paper and crayons as soon as she learned to write, to her several published novels and various anthology contributions, writing is what makes her feel most complete.
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Growing up with older sisters is a blessing in disguise. The best word I could think of to describe the relationship between a younger brother and older sister would have to be "frenemies." I'll explain why.
1. No one could make fun of you...except them. Your older sister is your first and harshest critic but also your protector. Even at an early age, they would tease you about everything from intelligence, physical attributes to your taste in music. But you best believe that if she heard someone she didn't know make fun of you, heads were going to roll. 2. They were constantly with you and against you.
Ironically, though, if they overheard one of your other siblings, parents, or girlfriend teasing you, they would jump in or be the first to laugh and agree with them in what would become a seemingly endless roast. But when you guys teamed up on someone, you obliterated them. It was truly a dream team. 3. They were instigators and helped reconcile. Snorting pepper at the restaurant. Convincing you to eat the laundry detergent by telling you it was sugar. "Bet you $10 you won't do it." Things along these lines seemed to be an all too common occurrence with your older sister and you either got you hurt or in trouble.
This is not a valid email, please try again. However, they knew how to stop you from doing something stupid. Taking $20 from your mom's purse, throwing a party while mom and dad were on vacation, dating that one girl, getting back together with your ex.
No matter what the stupid idea was. Your older sister just knew exactly what to do and say to prevent you from making major life mistakes. 4. They never wanted to hang out with you but got offended when you didn't invite them to something. Now, not every little brother wants to specifically want to spend time with their older sister growing up but when that rare occurrence did come when you asked them if they wanted to eat something together the answer was usually no.
Video games? Forget about it. Cops and robbers? Nope. Remember when she got her license, and you needed a ride..not today. If you went to a concert or a game, or worse went somewhere with another sibling without telling them, poop hit the fan, and you probably haven't heard the end of it even until this day.
As we've gotten older, however, they're your go-to person now. Movies, that cool new sidewalk restaurant, and sporting events. Not to mention family events are utterly miserable without them now. It's a relationship that ages like wine. 5. They would throw you under the bus in a split second but take a bullet for you. For some reason, you lived in a house where you were the only one who used dishes and left laundry in the hamper and pretty much anything that went wrong was immediately blamed on you.
It was most likely because your older sister helped start that trend Your sister probably used you as an excuse for being late to school too. You would use every tactic in the book to convince your parents that it was her doing and not yours and even form the most logical of arguments like "I literally haven't been home in three days...it couldn't have been me" and she would still get away with it...the master manipulator.
Nothing brought you closer together when you both messed up and had to face the consequences together. Sometimes you would get lucky, and she would take all the blame and to this day probably reminds you that you owe her one. The little brother, big sister dynamic consists of logical opposites that seem become more polarized as time goes by. It is by far one of the strangest and unique friendships on this planet. It is so powerful that even the ancient Greeks philosophized about its form and virtue and reflected upon it in one of my favorite stories - Antigone.
One of the lines that always stuck with me is when Antigone explains that the love for her brother and the grief she feels. This pain is much greater than any grief should ever feel than the loss of her child or her husband. She can always take another husband or have more children, but now that her parents had passed, she can never again have another brother, he is irreplaceable. I feel the same way about my older sisters. They are irreplaceable. Although they made my life so challenging and frustrating at times, I was able to learn so much from them and tried my best to absorb their best attributes and make them my own.
There is no one I love or respect more in this world, and I am grateful for everything they've taught me and could not imagine experiencing my childhood without them. I know time has pushed us to go our separate ways but it's comforting to know that in this crazy world, no matter how far they are, my worst/best friends will always be there for me.
Dear Grandpa, As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.
I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.
This is not a valid email, please try again. My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone.
It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back. You know what broke my heart the most though?
It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away.
There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time.
I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by. I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear.
I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair. It's weird having a sibling. When I lived with my big sister, I never appreciated having someone constantly there for me. A second closet, a partner in crime, a buddy in times of boring. College has made me appreciate her much more than ever before, so much so that we FaceTime and text almost daily.
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