My two best friends were dating, which was every single person's nightmare. One day they were my best friend and my boyfriend, and the next they were a couple with some sad, pathetic little puppy following them around: me. I couldn't help but roll my eyes when they held hands or cancel on plans with Bonnie when she added that Michael would be coming, too I like to think that we rewrote the unwritten friend code. Instead of forbidding each other from following our hearts, we talked about the emotions on our sleeves. Next time I agreed to be honest with her about my feelings and she agreed to be more aware of the ways she was affecting them. I had officially survived my best friend dating my ex–and the best part is, we survived it together. *Names have been changed.
That happened to me. My boyfriend was terrible; abusive, manipulative, etc. I was drawn in deeply. He was the first guy I’d ever had sex with. I was young. Anyway, I was really close to my best friend at the time and told her everything.
She knew how bad he was. So when things got really bad and I didn’t know if I could break up safely I took the opportunity to join an archaeology group going to Jordan for six weeks. When I came back my best friend was involved with my abusive ex. I talked with her like you did. She cried, too. I don’t know your best friend (ex) but mine was emotionally vulnerable. Looking for love, etc. There was nothing I could do. I just ended up telling her it was her choice but I was sorry she chose to do something so destructive to herself.
She ended up having a breakdown and going back home to her parents. I didn’t see much of her before because of her shame. I understand the awful feeling of losing both your boyfriend and your best friend. It hurts badly. Obviously there are already hard feelings. But to minimize them you will have to cut off all contact. Delete her number from your phone, etc.
She chose your ex over you. Any mutual friends should be asked to not mention her. It has to be final. She is messed up and will only cause you more problems as you deal with the betrayal.
So, she didn’t tell you that she was going to be dating your ex? And she is your best friend? Not anymore she isn’t. She stopped being your friend when she started dating him without at least giving you a heads up. There is no way to do this without hurting feelings. And you don’t have to say anything.. just don’t be friends with her anymore. Like this. You're dating my ex behind my back and didn't even have the decency to tell me yourself.
I don't need people like that in my life. You obviously felt bad about what you were doing or you wouldn't have hid it from me. This friendship is over and I never want to speak to you again. Get out of my sight.
I have zero sympathy for her crocodile tears. How dare she cry as if you hurt her and wronged her? A best friend dating your ex partner behind your back is not ok. That's not a best friend Whatever you said, you were too kind. I'd have blasted her. Publicly.
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There is certain lines that you should not cross. I would never consider dating my best friends ex. I would not betray her in such a manner.
I would know there was a reason he was an ex and would not be able to be with anyone who treated my best friend in any way that would make her feel bad. I spend alot of time with my best friend and also wouln't want her to feel uncomfortable when he was there.
If your best friend is dating your ex boyfriend, then your best friend shouldn't be called your best friend. Or your ex could just be using your best friend to make you seem jealous. If it hurts too much to think about him, then you should give back your gifts from him(if you have any) so it won't remind you of him.
But you shouldn't do that for revenge or to make him feel bad. If you and your ex are becoming good friends again, you should just keep those gifts and think of it as a gift from a guy friend. Okay, this might sound kind of bad but i'm telling the truth not trying to be mean, but if your ex is dating your best friend then there's two things that you need to do, but getting your ex back is not one of them.
1st off, if your ex really cared about you he wouldn't be dating your best friend. A … nd 2nd, your best friend is not a friend at all. That's like the number one rule that best friends should never break.
The two things that you should and need to do is cut off "friendship"with both parties because they were never truly your friends. i had a boyfriend who i was totally in love with and he was in love with me. we broke up 2 or 3 times, but always got back together. one time we didn't. he asked out one of my best friends and she said no cause she will never do that to me. a month later i end up moving and one of my friends tell me … on the cell phone that there going out.
he has had 3 new girlfriends seens me and i had 0 boyfriends seens him. i do think about him, and say oh i love him but then i say i hate him i wanna hate him but i cant. but i finaly am over him, just it bothers me. that is a really tough one to get over just as you have got overyou past boyfriend your BEST friend than gets something going withthem.
I bet what you are thinking at the moment "some friend she turnedout to be!" But then your just as bad try to support her without getting toinvolved try to distance … yourself when she and your ex aretogether. Hang with other friends until you feel ready the lastthing you want to do is break friends with your best friend becauseit just makes you look jealous.
Unfortunately there is not much you can do to get your boyfriend to break up with your best friend and come back to you as he has made his choice. Time may be the healer and he may realize he does love you, but there is always that risk he will either stay with your best friend or possibly break up … with her and meet another girl. Most of the time you just wanna hear what you wanna hear and nothing else , but if he is dating your best friend it just means you have no best friend , and iwouldn't want him back even if iwas in love because that's just nasty !
If he cared about you he wouldn't have gone out with your best friend … because he knows that it'll make you hurt and so does your " best friend " !
hi, my x-boyfriend is really nice in fact i still really like him, anyway my best friend olivia (just after i had broken up with him) decided she was madly in love with him and she suddenly asked him out because she was desperate. If I were you I would know that the first step is always to g … et to know him, smile at him and stuff.
We have hot lunches in school and the oldest year help with serving out and things and I do it with Ben, (the name of my x boyfriend is Ben) so i know him quite well. we laugh together and stuff but my friends think i still like him and my friends tease me about it. If I were you I would get to know him, be funny or do what ever he likes and then he will get the hint and mabey you know ask you out.
I really hope this helps Molly42 P.S I am in the same position do all of you think this info/advice is right?
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