She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t. My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine As for the stereotypes, well SOME single mothers are only dating for those reasons. Others are not Because, like I said, dating somebody with a child should be a given - it’s a package deal, “items cannot be separated.” 730 Views · View 1 Upvoter · Answer requested by. Krissy Kouns.
Parenting a child who has a disability definitely has some unique challenges. Here are a few quotes that never fail to deliver a ray of sunshine on the cloudy days. Enjoy and please feel free to add your favourites in the comments. 1. “Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have.
It’s about understanding that he is exactly the person he is supposed to be and that, if you’re lucky, he just might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be.” ~ Joan Ryan 2. “One of the great things that any community can do is not teach tolerance, but live tolerance, not talk respect, but live inclusivity.” ~ Michael Pritchard 3. “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched- They must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller 4.
Don’t focus on what she can’t do. Focus on what she can do. Like a boss. ~ Lisa Thornbury 5. “Parents of children with special needs create their own world of happiness and believe in things that others cannot yet see.” ~Unknown 6. “Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us.” ~ Unknown 7. “Parents of children with special needs create their own world of happiness and believe in things that others cannot yet see.”~ Unknown 8.
“Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there’s going to be a way through it.”~ Michael J.
Fox 9. “Hang on tight and get ready for the wildest, saddest, happiest, most challenging and most rewarding ride of your life!”~ Sylvia Phillips 10. “Every survival kit should include a sense of humour.” ~ Anonymous 11. “Promise me you’ll always remember… you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved move than you know.” ~ Christopher Robin 12.
The past haunts and the future taunts. This is particularly true if you love a child with special needs. ~ Lisa Thornbury 13. “Excellence is the result of caring more than others think is wise, risking more than others think is safe, dreaming more than others think is practical, and expecting more than others think is possible.” ~Howard Schultz 14. “The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears.” ~Ellen Goodman 15.
“And though she be little, she is fierce.” ~Shakespeare 16. “You are now in a secret world. You’ll see things you never imagined: ignorance, rudeness, and discrimination. But you’ll also witness so many everyday miracles, and you’ll know it. You won’t think a milestone is just a milestone, you’ll know it’s a miracle. You’ll treasure things most wouldn’t think twice about. You’ll become an advocate, an educator, a specialist, and a therapist, but most of all, you’ll be a parent to the most wonderful child.” ~Geraldine Renton 17.
“Children with special needs aren’t sent to special parents, they make parents special.” ~ Unknown 18. “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” ~ Oscar Wilde 19. “The are quite special. Absolutely accepting and totally loving, from birth, someone who is different mentally, and has a different way of seeing the world, is a wonderful trait.
It’s a trait I wish there was another way of getting, but there isn’t. And it does involve a degree of not having it fantastically easy.” ~ Sally Phillips 20. “Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did—that everything involving our children was painful in some way.
The emotions, whether they were or, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that in the end they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain.
The human heart was not designed to beat outside the body and yet, each child represented just that a parent’s hear bared, weather forever outside its chest.” ~ Debra Ginsberg 21. “I thought I’d teach my child about the world. Turns out I’m teaching the world about her.” ~ Unknown 22. Never let anyone dis your ability to make the right choices regarding your child’s disabilities.
~ Lisa Thornbury 23. “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ~ Gilda Radner 24. “I wouldn’t change you for the world, but I’ll change the world for you.” ~ Unknown 25. I have a child with special needs. I didn’t know if I would be strong enough.
Turns out I am. And so are you. ~ Lisa Thornbury Leave a Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment You may use these HTML tags and attributes: Name * Email * Website Notify me of follow-up comments by email.
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best i dating someone with a child quotes - 36 Really Funny Quotes About Dating
Do men in their late 20's to late 30's typically avoid dating women with children? After 2 years since the split with my ex-fiancé, I finally decided to start dating again and created a profile on Match.com.
I have a successful career and am fairly attractive (I'm not sure how to politely say I'm not hideous or overweight but am also no model).
It's been weeks and I haven't been asked on a single date. In fact, in the option "Has Kids" in "Your Ideal Match" section, 99% of the profiles I've viewed have "No". I get that dating a woman with a child might be unknown territory and can also have a few hurdles but there are also many pros as well. So I'd love to hear it right from the source... Why wouldn't you take a chance on a single mom?
If I were a single dude with no kids, I wouldn't date a single mom because: 1) The possibility that I will be somewhat responsible for someone else's kid scares me 2) I don't want any baby daddy drama 3) I am guaranteed to get attached to the kid and would be worried about something happening to the relationship and I would have to break up with her, which means I would also have to break up with the kid.
Seeing a woman cry is hard enough, seeing a kid cry is gut wrenching 4) I would know that I am always placed on the back burner, the kid's needs come first (rightfully so) 5) I would be worried about being on the hook financially for the kid in some way 6) I would be worried about mommy using the kid against me as leverage to guilt me into shit 7) I would be worried about not having as much sex as I'd like to because of the extra responsibility and time involved with raising a child That's all I can think of for now.
: I was ten... didn't know what I was doing. It does go a little deeper though. This man was in his forties and never had kids or really been around kids much.
His idea of discipline was to put his hands around my neck or push me into the wall... until of course the middle school I went to called Social Services... he was real nice then. We had this get along/hate each other relationship going. Efforts were made to coexist but we never really made peace and he died when I was fifteen...
No, I didn't kill him. There's still that part of me that regrets never having the opportunity to take him on as a grown adult. Show him that hitting me wasn't as easy as it was when I was a child. : It's cool. No offense taken. It was a long time ago and it's past. I'm too worried about my future to let it bother me.
I wasn't completely innocent either. I used to steal his porn knowing he couldn't do anything about it. He couldn't tell mom on me and he couldn't come after me and have to explain it to mom either. Heh heh! : "Personally, I feel you shouldn't have to worry about 1, 5, 6 or 7 with an emotionally and financially stable single mother." -If all women came with a certified stamp of approval on their foreheads from the Bureau of Female Inspectors officially validating that they are emotionally and financially stable, then there'd be no cause for worry.
Unfortunately, last I checked, there's no official way to guarantee when meeting a woman for the first time just how emotionally or financially stable she is or isn't......so the fear is warranted. : I am a 20 year old guy, currently dating someone (Age 21) with a child (Aged 11 months)...
The father is still involved in both the baby's life and her life too... They get lifts together to places etc etc...
I am not allowed to go to the baby's 1st birthday party. I am constantly told that a relationship with her is a relationship with her baby... At the same time i'm constantly told that I will, and i quote: "Never be the father to her baby".
I've gotten along fine (If i can even call it "fine") but she seems to lack any sympathy about how hard it is on my end to have to sit down every-day and see the baby, knowing it is half hers and half her ex's.... I can see her ex in the baby's face.... I agree with every single point you've made and I honestly find it so difficult sometimes, trying to urge her to understand that I am fine with the father being involved in her baby's life still, just not hers!
Its hard..... 1. The bond between a man and a woman when they have a child, with all of the firsts that go along with that experience, is unique.
It is perhaps the strongest bond two people can have. You only have your first child once, and I want to share that with someone and have it be a first for us both. Otherwise, if I come along and try to have a family of my own with a woman who already has a child, I'm basically just an asterisk to a family already in progress, made by someone else. No thank you. 2. A marriage is very difficult at times, even when the two spouses are "very compatible." When you add a child to the mix that is only related to one parent, PLUS the presence of that child's biological father, you bring into your life a whole host of additional headaches....that you have no control over....
Ex husband intrusion/meddling. When the ex-husband remarries it will only get worse. Much worse. I will never allow my schedule, my vacation, my dinner plans, whatever to be influenced by the decisions of another man.
Never. Why would I bring that into my life? Along that line... 3. Why would I want to help raise another man's DNA? 4. Everyone has a past, but not everyone has a child from that past. I think marrying someone with a child works best when you have a child or children from a past relationship as well. There is something to be said for symmetric/balanced relationships and experiences. It's just too unbalanced otherwise. When you are at such different places in life, a relationship will have little chance of working out in the long run.
5. The only family and focus that I want to have and that I want my wife to have is what we create together. Anything else is just interference, a distraction. : Very good analysis but I'd add that the single mother knows that she is not top of many men's lists and therefore presents an untrue image of her situation: she won't tell you about the character of her children nor will she tell you if her ex is a jealous control freak prone to violence.
Any childless man needs to have a very close look at EVERYTHING and decide if has a role in that family. The woman's promises mean very little in the scheme of things. : He didn't say anything that was selfish. He was actually being non-selfish, emphasizing the well being of a relationship that he cares about. Just because someone wants to have a relationship between two people doesn't make them selfish. Can't call someone selfish when they show plenty of other selfless sides. Perhaps I should call you selfish because you live in a nice home and won't sell it so the homeless can have a place to stay.
: Tessa of course we operate on self interests! He is looking for a mate, he is not looking to become Mother Teressa! What obligation does he have to that women or her kids? I can say it's selfish that you don't give your money to every homeless person on the street and it's selfish that you think about yourself!
Of course he's looking out for himself. That's how biological beings work, for their survival. : Wow Ron, you couldn't have wrote it any better. I even copied it down.
Your opening line summed it up perfect. I was dating a woman with two kids who could not have anymore children. It had me thinking about my life with her if we were to marry.
I realized I could conceivably be married to this woman for 40 years and never create that unique bond with her of having children let alone not being the first.
I essentially started to feel like I would always be second place only receiving left overs or as you put it "a asterisk!!!". In short it definitly felt as if the relationship was unbalanced. dating sites and single mothers. just to get this out there stay away from it.
Men on those sites are complete strangers. Not a great idea for your children or your own heart. There is someone out there i can promise you that. Make sure he wants to build a friendship with you and dont just introduce your kids right away if he breaks your heart he would also break the childrens.
lets also say that the man doesnt work out. now your children have to wonder why another man has hurt or left their momma. He has to make you feel 100 about everything he has to be a friend before a lover.
He has to know your children come first. HE has to be patient and open with you all the time. Asking about your children is great but wanting to know just as much about your kid(s) as he does you putting effort by asking her if she needs anything if they need anything. If he does things to make you say you didnt have to do that or leaves you thinking wonderful thoughts. long story short he has to make you so happy the kids notice and ask you questions " mommy why are you so happy ?
mommy who did that for you ? who what when where and why. when the time is right you will know introduce your kid(s) in a place whee you have family or friends over.
see how he interacts with the situation. if he wants to just stick by you the whole time and be a cuddle buddy thats a no-no. if he gets up and helps tend to what ever they are doing and you see a true man. go for a second get together . Just remember no man is more important then the love you give to your kids. you can message me back i have alot more input just wondering if you agree with what ive said so far : See the fundamental psychological logic I see from your statements I quote you " Its amazing to have someone divide your struggles" You expect someone to help you with raising your kids, someone who will have no biological incentive.
Why would you expect a man to be involved in a struggle to raise kids who are not his DNA. Nature does not work this way.
What you are expecting goes against human nature. It would behoove you to take animal psychology class. (yes we are animals :) When someone signs up for a dating site, even if they're just seeing what's out there, there's still the broad presumption that they might meet someone to date seriously, and maybe marry, and maybe have kids with.
Most younger guys, if they're thinking of having kids at all, are probably angling to have their own, not necessarily raise someone else's. Using a dating site makes it even harder because people have the luxury of being picky.
When you meet in public, you have a chance to get to know each other before the subject of kids even comes up, and they might decide that the added wrinkle is still worth it. But online, they can see that you have a kid and easily say "next." Dating is challenging enough as it is.....why would I (or any other man....or woman, for that matter) want to voluntarily take MORE chances and add MORE hurdles to the trials of the dating arena?! Some guys don't want kids at all, ever.
Some guys aren't sure about kids yet. Some guys may be amenable to kids but would rather meet a girl without to have their OWN kids with. And other guys may have kids already, in which case your kid just adds an extra complication. You say there are pros to dating a woman with a child. I'm curious....what are they? Because I cannot think of any. There are some elements of dating women with children that are not negative, or are tolerable, or some that may even possibly be enjoyable....but all things being otherwise equal, I can't think of any aspect of dating a single woman with kids that wouldn't be better WITHOUT the kids.
Now don't despair, some guys out there WILL tolerate the existence of the kids, and may even some day grow to love them as their own. But without knowing you from Eve? As a general preference, all things being equal? Yeah, they'll want to avoid the baggage. Listen, full disclosure, I am a happily married man in my mid-30's with 3 wonderful baby daughters.
They are the meaning of my life. I love my girls to death. They are g**damn (non-)mother-f**king handful. Actually, that's an understatement, because having only one in my hand at a given time feels like a vacation.
Those moments when all three are screaming and crying to be picked up and held at the same time while my back muscles are spasming S.O.S.
in morse code are......the extra-special moments I cherish/wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. Forget dating other women with kids, my kids barely allow me to have a date my own WIFE. Or have a quiet sit-down meal with her. Or even just a conversation longer than 90 seconds without interruption. Again, I love my kids.
I treasure the fantastic challenges they provide. But that's because they are MY kids. And I know some things will get easier as they get older....but OMFG! So if I were somehow single right now, given the choice between getting to know someone like my wife while dodging all the challenges of kids, and getting to know someone like her and NOT having all those challenges around....it's not even close. It's hard enough out there already. And the same applies to my stock, too.
Like, I have no delusions that being an exhausted stressed out single dad would with a trio of children drawing on my time, energy, and money would somehow IMPROVE my dating ability or worth in the eyes of someone who has never met me.
Lastly, my parents divorced when I was 4. My dad was a wonderful dad, and I'd like to believe I was a wonderful kid. But, once again, I have no delusions that *MY* existence did anything to make my dad (or my mom) more dateable in the eyes of others. My dad re-married and mother did so twice, so they both eventually found other people to be with.
But I can absolutely promise you that conversations like, "No, sorry, I can't take you to dinner because CaliBoy has a Little League game tonight," did not HELP their dating lives.
Or, "No, we can't have sex on the couch because CaliBoy is here tonight." Maybe that's not a dealbreaking negative, but it's not a ringing endorsement either. I am a single mom. I find this interesting and totally understandable guys would think this way. However, I would not bring kids into meeting a guy until it got serious and introduce slowly. I would not expect the guy to help out and parent unless we got serious and he felt comfortable.
A huge reason to consider a single,mom is because they know what unconditional, selfless love is MORE than a single woman without kids, not always, but I would say personally my kids have taught me so, so much about love and being more caring, forgiving, etc.
Secondly, as a single,mom I feel I am much more mature and emotionally stable than I was before. I also am financially independent and take thinga not as serious as I use to.
Kids teach me how to laugh more and,have fun, Thirdly, you get to be a kid again, and,nothings better than that!! Your best bet for dating is other single fathers. As a single father myself, when I was dating I specifically looked for single mothers because they can relate to my schedule and would understand my kids coming 1st in life.
Are you looking at single fathers too? I have a tough time thinking the average single father is saying 'no' to the question of kids - would make him a bit of a hypocrite. You reporting that '99%' of the profiles you see.....are apparently arent single fathers.....makes you no different than what you are complaining about....no?
I like women with children. I like kids, but don't want to create them. I've been in the step parent role before and loved it. Being able to make a difference in a child is a great thing, although it is a challenge. I have a friend who is a single mom with a boy. She complains about men not wanting relationships, and she resents my view of it. She's 110% dedicated to her son which is great, but she has little time or attention for dating. She thinks she's putting enough effort into but, she really isn't.
I was a man without children who met a woman with two daughters and spent far too long trying to make something worthwhile before realising that building something meaningful was impossible. My advice to any childless man would be to avoid a woman with children at all costs because quite frankly the children are the most important figures in the situation and they didn't invite you in. The woman will tell you anything to make you believe that you are "making something new" but that is not the case because you are who she turned to when plan A failed and the emotional family roller-coaster that begins post spilt/divorce is going to be crashing into you on a regular basis.
If you try to get on with the children they may reject you out of loyalty to their father, if you are cautious and circumspect, the mother will question your commitment and the child may feel rejected.
The father is also able to make your relationship impossible by saying certain things to his children or behaving in such a way towards his your partner that she is fearful, stressed or constantly feeling guilty.
If the father is dead or has nothing to do with the children then you have a better chance of things being better, just as if the children are very young but you are still entering a broken situation. I wish that I had stuck to my guns when I suggested that we live apart and see each other on a casual basis. I took the poisoned chalice when she told me that she needed me to "commit to me and my daughters".
Several years of struggle later I'm told, "this can't work because they just won't accept you". If you do decide to take the gamble then look closely at the children and family dynamic and decide for yourself whether you are a good fit for the entire family.
Getting on well with the woman is not enough. 1. Her kids will always come before me. Which they should (she'd be a lousy mother if they didn't), but it means she probably won't be able to focus as much attention on the relationship, and thus is not what I am looking for. 2. How much responsibility is she going to expect me to assume? Is she going to expect me to take her AND the kids for ice cream?
Free babysitting? Play taxi if her kid has soccer practice and she is running late? 3. What about the daddy? They're his kids too, he might expect to be part of their lives. Is he going to come around causing trouble? 4. On the other hand, what does he know about her that I don't that made him feel like he needed to end the relationship despite having kids wityh her?
These may or may not apply with a woman with children, but they almost certainly won't be an issue with one who doesn't Thank you for all your responses! It's great to hear directly from the source as there are many reasons posted that I've never even considered. And to answer your question CaliMAn, some benefits would be that single moms, for the most part, don't play games (no time!), are not racing against the biological clock and so do not have any desire to rush into anything, have a lot of cool toys around and are independent, mature, patient, selfless and nurturing.
Any advice on what I can do or maybe include in my profile that might ease any fears? Some background: My son is almost 4 and so while more dependent on me than a 10 year old, he's not a baby either.
I have a good relationship with his father who has joint custody so our son stays with him 40% of the time. I absolutely intend to keep my son and my dating life separate so no one will be meeting my son until I become serious with someone and we've decided it's the right time.
: If I were you, I would leave my son out of my dating profile. You have on there that you have kids but other than that you need to be seen as a woman who may be dateable not somebody's momma. all that my kid is my world etc will not get you many dates. As screwed up as it is, you are looking for somebody that likes you in spite of you having kids. Its a weird thing I know but it is pretty much reality. : Honestly, you should post the text of your profile and we can help you more that way.
Some things that sound innocuous to women, set off red flags for men. Also don't expect that every single mom has her crap together like you say you do. There're a lot of women in that situation by choice or by circumstance who are not competent adults. Unfortunately, the stigma those women have earned is shared among the group whether you deserve it or not (to a certain extent anyways.) I'm a 51 year old male and in my mid 20's after becoming a Vice President I met recently divorced woman at a bar named Joan.
She was beautiful. As the evening progressed and after several drinks and long conversation progressed she had the basic low down on who I was and I also understood that she was recently divorced with two children.
Her husband had cheated on her. To make a long story short we ended up back at my house around 1 a.m., screwed until about 10:00 am (when you're in your 20's you can do that) and had a relationship for about five years before I ended it. The kids were not the issue. I've now been married for 18 years and look back on Joan with a few regrets.
I simply wasn't mature enough (not enough in savings, not enough experience, frankly probably not enough courage) to handle being an instant daddy. I often wonder what my life would be like if I stuck it out. Probably no worse off than now and frankly the sex was out of this world. Don't be afraid to explore new territory or accept additional responsibility in your life. You never know what it may lead to. : I like this man. A real man acknowledges his shortcomings and grows from it.
..not enough courage, thats courage to admit that!!! Good for you, don't do something your gut says you might regret!! Taking extra responsibility as dear as children can be a huge blessing for you and them!!!! Love is a gift, loves lives given!!
Another reason is women are very unpredictable and are very powerful in legal matters. A woman scorned or just crazy and wants revenge for something a man did to her she can.
call the police and falsely accuse men for anything from assault to child abuse and the laws obligate the legal system to take the woman's side almost every time. Men all over are incarcerated for things they didn't do because of a woman. Its already to risky getting involved with a woman these days and one with kids is even worse. : You should start dating those poor men incarcerated cause all women are so dangerous and out of control. Most of my friends say they dream of calling The police to falsely acuse men for Child abuse.
Actually, that is all we think about from day 1 after meeting a Guy. Romance, sex, love—- ‘ naaaaa’ so 90’s! I avoid women with kids because of the following :- The experience i had with single mums is there was always the real dad in the background, he took an instant dislike to you, you are told to be careful around her kids with how you explain who you are.
it all makes a bad feeling as if you are not meant to be there. This is how i experienced dating single mums a few years ago, it really put me off. The other thing that put me off is when ur given the impression that ur lucky when they realise you have a free life, the mother of the kids makes you feel guilty, The other thing that puts me off is the fact that a few are just money grabbers.
I ve experienced this on one occasion., they start askibg you to lend them money, was time to walk away for me. I personally would rather be single than deal with all the drama associated with other people's kids. I know this isn't the case with all mothers, it very much depends on their attitude really.
Thought id just share my experience with single mums : The mother's attitude is only part of the issue. The emotional firestorm that happens after a family break up is no place for a man without children. The woman can try all she wants but if the kids and their father want you gone then you will be. If you have kids then it's different because you are both in the same boat...
I would just like to add to this even thou it’s an old post. Everyone has a stereotypical view of a single mum, however you cannot base general opinions on this in reality.
For the women have confidence in yourself and don’t allow anyone to make it seem the most important people in your life are an issue if that’s the case then they would prob be an arsehole for other reasons under different circumstances; in other words it’s a lucky escape.
To the men on here I think you are doing yourselves a disservice, there are many great men with the capacity to love beyond shared dna just like there is for women. Personally I see having kids as a positive as it weeds the good from the bad without having to actually do anything. For me it’s not a case of will anyone fancy me enough to deal with my kids its more will anyone be good enough for me to allow them into my kids life. In response to some of
Right off the bat, there are many reasons why it’s not ideal to date someone with a child. After all, it’s not just the fact that you have to make it work with the person you’re dating and the child that comes along with him or her, but you also have to deal with the ex who is the other parent to that child. The good news is that millions of men and women make it work, which is proof that it is possible.
Still, even though it can work in many cases, do you want to risk the odds? For some of you, the risk is worth it; for others, it’s not. Prior to meeting this new person, did you know that you wanted kids? The most promising and successful scenario in dating someone with a child involves you knowing – with no doubts or hesitations – that you want kids. As long as you start with this crucial building block – wholeheartedly wanting to be a parent – you can get to know and date that new person, and the relationship may actually work out or even morph into the kind of union you’ve always wanted.
If you are on the fence about wanting kids, forcing yourself into a pre-established family adds so many pressures, and it’s not necessarily worth the hassle unless you live somewhere where there are truly few to no other dating options.
Do you have a significant part of your personality that is nurturing? News flash: A significant portion of the population are not nurturers by nature and won’t make good, nurturing parents. I’m thinking of workaholics, angry/bitter-prone personalities, and impulsive, always-looking-for-the-party personalities.
These types typically don’t have a significant part of their personalities that is nurturing. These men and women can and often do have children, but they usually find another partner to do the nurturing or they don’t care that much about their kids’ emotional needs. How do you know if you’re a nurturing personality? You have patience with children; you enjoy taking care of things, including children, plants, pets or people in need; you enjoy cooking for others; and you gladly take care of the people you care about when they’re sick.
Are you a flexible, easygoing personality, or do you veer toward a more “Type A” personality? Think about dating someone with a child this way: You are walking into a pretty complex situation that is already created. Sure, you as an addition to that will change the dynamic and you can help to become a part of it, but you need to a very flexible person to make the situation work with a new partner and a child who’s not yours (yet).
If you tend to be more of a take-charge, shot-calling personality, dating someone with a child is going to be challenging and you may not be happy because so many of the interpersonal dynamics and daily practices have already been set up.
Are you someone who gets in a fair number of fights or arguments with people, whether strangers or people you know well? If you have a history of getting confrontational or getting into arguments with others, dating someone with a child may not be a good idea. Your personality style causes you to say directly how you feel, whether positive or negative, and you stand your ground when things get stressful.
The concern with dating someone who has a child is that you are essentially walking smack-dab in the middle of a situation that is pretty stressful. If you are an argument-prone personality, understand that walking into a complex set of relationships may cause more arguments than you’ve ever had before. Quick advice to help you know for sure whether this move is right for you: The best thing you can do to figure out if you can happily date someone with a child is to do more of what you’re doing right now: reading about the issue.
Read as much as you can online and in books about blended families, and you will hear a lot of stories that can help you make the decision. In addition, talk to anyone you know at work or in your social life who has dated or married into a preexisting family and ask them to tell you what the experience – especially in the beginning – was like for them.
If you are smart and research the issue well, you will make a good decision. On the other hand, making an impulsive decision and getting in too deep too quickly could lead to intense problems later. Choose carefully! About the Author: is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction. He has had extensive training in conducting couples therapy and is the author of
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