Here are the best dating advice people have ever received It’s Valentine’s Day and sure you’ve prepared yourself for this big day for your first ever date, but hold your horses…are you really ready to meet your possible life partner? So, if dating gives you the heebie-jeebies and you’ve got butterflies in your stomach, don’t fret, we’ve got you covered! We’ve scoured the internet for the best dating advice and found some on Reddit with users attesting it changed the whole dating game for them. Hope it will for you and good luck in meeting the perfect man/woman for you. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Aug 18, 2015 Originally published on . In all the years that I’ve dated, I’ve been given plenty of advice on how to date right. “Make sure you play it cool.” “Don’t talk about your ex.” “Think before you say anything.” Instead of helping me on my dating journey, these pieces of advice only made me confused about what I should do on a date. Then, it finally happened. In fact, it happened on a date. My date one night mentioned it in passing and it struck me, like a jolt of lightening.
So, here it is, the best dating advice I ever received. Be vulnerable. When you’re open to being vulnerable, you’re being authentic. You’re allowing your heart to feel the purest of emotions. Trying to impress your date is one thing, but always striving to present your perfect self will not win you the love of your life.
Sure, they’ll love you for a while. But what about later in the relationship, when you can’t fake it anymore and you start being yourself? Your partner will feel like you weren’t the same person they fell in love with, and that’ll probably end the relationship. The perfect antidote to this sad climax is to gather the courage to be vulnerable from the very start.
To not be afraid of your fears — “what if they think I’m rude, or arrogant?” — and instead face them head on. To be open to new things, to stop overthinking and, most importantly, to have the courage to be vulnerable. That’ll help you find freedom in the end, and of course, the love of your life. Here are some thoughts to inspire you to let go of your fears and be more vulnerable.
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hi there essay forum I really want to master essay writing skill I do have a grammar and comma problems to name a few can you help me thank you What is the best advice you ever received? Why? And did you follow it? The best advice I have received was the advice from my mom who said " everything thing happens for good". My mothers advice was so true and applicable . It gave me hope that when bad things happened to me or things don't turn out the way I want them because of my mom's advice I understood it was is for a reason.
I followed it also because through out my life it was easy to find situations where I could get upset. Since I was a little girl I heard my mom say "everything happens for Good" I heard her say it both for the good and the bad things that happened. hearing her telling me this when she saw me upset made me put it in my mind and apply it in my everyday life. Finding myself in small situations being mad like missing the bus to get to school or being rejected by a friend, I remember always getting mad at myself , people or even God.
The time I applied for a job and after waiting two weeks for interview I was mad because I didn't the new job. This days thanks to God I have been changed because my mom' advice was so true and applicable. Now rather than just worrying myself why things always don't work out as I expected I learned not to give in or give up easily in every situations I found myself in but always I try to see beyond what is in front of me or try to focus on the positive sides of situations as they saying goes " you can either think the cup is half full or half empty".
The best counsel that I got from my mother when I connected it with what I read on the bible where it says in new testament "Give thanks in all circumstances" . I really believed that all things happens for a reason and that gave me hope. I was just wondering, pondering and thinking all the good and bad things that happened in my life.
Even more I was just thinking about the good and bad things that happen in people lives and how even though at times it is very difficult to be thankful for the bad things that happen in my life but just remembering it in difficult situation helps me to clam down. I found it to be a good reminder to just keep on being optimistic .
The more I lived life there were more situations coming my way that I got me upset easily. To mention a few friends made me upset when they stopped calling me. Strangers made me upset because they cut line in front of me at a grocery store. The dog make me mad because it pee on the sofa. The microwave made me mad because it stopped working. Sometimes it was easy for me just to get upset rather that to be happy and being thankful for the lots of things I possess .
But now since two or three years ago my mom's advice really sync in and I got to apply it and at times it was difficult to believe everything was happening for a reason as the saying goes " Everything happens for a reason and a reason" but just not getting upset because I missed the bus to go to school or that I broke up with my boyfriend really felt good. It made me feel that I was doing the right thing.
That I was living my life to the fullest which when I look back at my life I was sure not to find any regrets. Ever now and then as I go through this life this two advices pop in my mind and remind me how my moms advice "everything is for good" is such an outstanding advice it gives me happiness a sense of meaning that things are not just happening but for a reason.
Here is some help for the first part, where you had the important errors: The best advice I have received was the advice from my mom, who said, "everything thing happens for good." My mother's advice was so true and applicable .
It gave me hope when bad things happened to me or things don't turn out the way I wanted them, that perhaps it was is for a reason. I followed it also because through out my life it was easy to find situations where I could get upset.
Since I was a little girl I heard my mom say, "Everything happens for Good." I heard her say it both for the good and the bad things that happened. hearing her telling me this when she saw me upset made me put it in my mind and apply it in my everyday life. Finding myself angry in some situations, such as being mad when I missed the bus or being rejected by a friend; I remember always getting mad at myself, other people or even God.
The counsel that I got from my mother was enhanced when I connected it with what I read in the New Testament, "Give thanks in all circumstances." Good luck!!! What the first guy said is a good idea. You don't want to bore the reader who has just read hundreds of other essays right at the beginning. Try to focus on a specific idea or instance. •  ✓ - Undergraduate •  ✓ - Undergraduate •  ✓ - Undergraduate •  ✓ - Undergraduate / / What is the best advice you ever received?
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• Eat Mooli Ka Paratha (raddish dish) and use Airtel 4G on Internet Explorer while using Ola Share on your first date to make it perfect. • Go on a trek on your first date. Adrenaline rush forms better bonds, also if she’s annoying you can throw her off the cliff.
• Cheating in Relationships is like the YouTube app. People don’t realise while switching to a new app that they can’t enjoy it anymore. • Don’t stalk her daily on LinkedIn, that bloody platform informs about stalkers. • If she unnecessarily pouts, then she is filled with doubts, and completely out of sorts. • If she doesn’t like Biryani, she’s going to spread a lot of Raita.
• Never send a good morning or good night text, if you do then you’ll be trapped forever to do so. • If you think removing your Whatsapp dp, and putting 1 billion sad statuses will make a difference to her, then you’re doomed for life.
• If they have wanderlust specified in their bios. They wander only behind lust. • If her weight post make up is + or - 2.5 kgs, you’re gonna meet a whole new person in the morning. • Instead of searching for “the one”, how about you try and be “the one”. • Optimise your usage of fingers. Like do not text someone like a despo when you don’t stand a chance at all. • If your girl has a Male best friend, kill him first. That friendzoned despo will anyway ruin it for you. • If she has put only her lips and part of her chin as her dp, it means in reality she is both ugly and stupid.
• People who say they are single and happy are the biggest liars in the world. They just want to let you know that they are single. • If she takes selfies in bathrooms. She’s not the one, bro! • Don’t Be like Aadhar card, getting linked to unnecessary things. • Ask what is feminism according to her. If she’s a pseudo feminist, drop sister to her house and walk away. • Girls who change Dp and put stolen inspirational quotes, stay away from them.
• If she gets offended by your subtle and sarcastic jokes, let sister pay the bill and walk away. • A woman’s place is not in the kitchen neither is the man’s in the friendzone.
• Never get drunk on the first date. You might hate her when she’s sober, and that’s like 99.99% of your married life. • If you don’t like something, don’t pretend to like it. You might end up only cuddling all your life, if you know what I mean. • Never ever try and guess or analyse what she’s thinking.
You will be always wrong, brothers. • People look different on Instagram and completely different in reality.
Remember that always! Footnotes Here are Ten Principles of Conscious Dating that I learned the hard way: 1. Know who you are and what you want. Like an iceberg, we are typically aware only of the tip, while our success and happiness depends upon what lies below the surface. 2. Learn how to get what you want. Assess the information, tools, and skills you will need and acquire them.
Develop creative strategies and action plans. "When you fail to plan, you plan to fail." 3. Be the "Chooser." Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don’t react to what, or who, chooses you. Seek to create what you want in your life. 4. Balance your heart with your head. Make your relationship choices consciously. It’s still exciting! 5. Be ready and available for commitment. Live your life and bring your dating strategy into alignment with how ready you really are for a committed relationship.
6. Use the "Law Of Attraction." Be the partner that you are seeking. Attract the partner that you want by developing yourself and living the life that you want.
"If you build it, they will come." 7. Gain relationship knowledge and skills. Prepare for the love of your life by learning about relationships, improving your relationship skills, and deepening your relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues. Date for fun and practice. Take more emotional risks. Read about relationships. Get relationship coaching.
Take relationship classes and workshops. 8. Create a support community. Isolated singles become lonely in their relationships when they focus on a partner to meet all their social and emotional needs.
9. Practice assertiveness. To get what you really want, you need to say "No" to what you don’t want. 10. Be a "Successful Single." Don’t put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen. Live your life vision and purpose while you are single.
The best way to find your life partner is to be a happy, successful single person living the life that you really want. These principles will help you avoid The 14 Dating Traps: 1. Marketing Trap Trying to attract a partner by making yourself more appealing, believing you have to sell yourself because nobody would want you as you really are. 2. Packaging Trap The opposite of the Marketing Trap.
Instead of seeking to sell yourself with attractive packaging, you focus on the packaging of others, such as age, body type, weight, income, etc. 3. Scarcity Trap Believing there is a limited supply of possible partners so you have to take what you can get or be alone. 4. Compatibility Trap Believing that if you’re having fun with someone and getting along well, then you’re compatible and a committed relationship will work.
5. Fairytale Trap This is passively expecting your ideal partner to magically appear so that you can live happily ever after without effort on your part.
Believing that finding your soul mate will just "happen." 6. Date-to-Mate Trap Becoming an instant couple with everybody you date, as if you’re giving the relationship a test drive.
Assuming that by becoming a couple and trying out the relationship that a successful committed relationship will happen. 7. Attraction Trap Making your choices based solely on feelings of attraction.
You interpret a strong attraction to someone as a sign that this relationship is a good choice and is meant to be.
8. Love Trap Interpreting infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, or emotional attachment as love. 9. Sex Trap Prioritizing physical intimacy and regarding everything else as optional. Your main criterion for a relationship is sexual attraction and physical compatibility. You become a couple as soon as you have sex. 10. Rescue Trap Hoping that a relationship will solve your emotional and financial problems and bring you happiness and fulfillment; like winning the lottery.
11. Co-dependent Trap You expect someone will love you and give you what you want by giving the other person what they want. You try to earn love and happiness by acquiescing, nurturing, giving, and helping. Needing to be needed often results in unconsciously attracting and choosing a relationship with a person who needs you but is unable to give you what you want.
You really want to be in a relationship. You feel unworthy as you are, and that you need to earn love. You pursue relationships because you feel incomplete when you’re not in one. 12. Entitlement Trap Believing you deserve to be happy and to get what you want in your life without effort or changes on your part, because you’re entitled.
Your attitude toward your partner is "What can you do for me?" "Make me feel good." "Make me happy." 13. Virtual Reality Trap Believe that "what you see is what you get" and seeing what you want to see instead of using actual experience and knowledge to make long-term relationship choices.
14. Lone Ranger Trap You are focused on your goal of finding your life partner and believe that the other relationships in your life are less important and that you don’t need anyone’s help. You evaluate the people you meet for their relationship potential and don’t take the opportunity to cultivate new friends.
Then, you feel isolated and believe that there’s a scarcity of potential partner. Please check out my book for the strategies and resources needed to avoid the 14 dating traps and implement the 10 principles of Conscious Dating to find the love of your life. • Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever go to the girls home uninvited, especially during the initial phase.
Unless, of course, if you want to get labelled as an intruder, desperate, psycho. • Girls, please communicate well with your partner. We don't have God like capabilities to know what you are thinking. • Guys, be more expressive with your girl. Hulk looks good on screen but in reality, you need to talk. • Good face is not the guarantee of good times.
Even poison is wrapped up intricately. • Give your partner space. They already have a boss/job, project, smart phone to bug them. • Be spontaneous at times and go with the flow of the moment. These will be the best cherished times in your relationship. • If your girl doesn't want you to meet her friends- it's a glarin red flag with the words- “ Save yourself and run” written on it.
If she is really into you, she will not miss an opportunity to introduce you to her friends. Also you can tell a lot about a girl's intentions (in case you have a doubt whether she likes you or not) by the way her best friend treats you.
The day your girl stops feeling about you or is thinking of breaking up or is not interested in having any relationship, her best friend's behavior towards you will also start becoming rude/indifferent. • Use perfume/deep if you sweat profusely or have a bad body odor. • Girls love dressing up for an occasion and if she doesn't do it anymore when going out with you but takes all the time in the world to go out with someone else, good news- “you will be dumped soon and replaced by that other guy.” • Till the time she is fighting with you, she loves you.
It's when she stops giving a shi# about you that you cease to exist for her. So be happy that you fight. Remember- Opposite of love is indifference. • Be mysterious. Mystery invokes interest. Interest leads to conversations and which may lead to a relationship eventually. Thanks, Nikhil Dadhich. • We never interfered in each others careers and goals, that aspect was always private. • There were no talks about past, honestly there was never a need to dig in what was irrelevant.
• There were no if's and but’s on spending our life together, there was never a second option. • There was no show off, free taxi services or over caring, nothing which couldn’t be continued for long.
• We both purchased the same INR 200 unlimited call plan on our Hutch SIM cards and later when we were busy in our careers we used to do Skype chats in evenings. • We never aimed at looking our best to each other, we were always simple and normal.
• We enjoyed the diversity in each others cultures, she took me to Gurudwara, I took her to Jain temples, we ate each other's cuisines. • There was 100% confidence and trust on each other, no suspicioun, never checked each others phones, never doubted opposite sex friends.
• We fought, but the deadline for every fight was the last call before sleeping. • There was no third person between us, strictly not allowed, no siblings, no best friends, no interference in love..
• We never rushed into marriage but also didn't wait for too long, we wanted to grow old together. • We dated like friends and we are still not more than casual friends, fighting, irritating and bullying each other without any hard feelings.
• Our dates were mostly sitting together in classes, sitting in College lawns and sharing tiffin, long walks in rains, highway drive with friends, movies, Barista and our favourite Connaught Place inner circle. The best thing is circumstances changed, relationship changed, life changed, seasons changed but our relationship didn't change just like Nerolac all weather paint!
This is how we dated before being successfully married!
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