Justice and equity is best. The scales of justice. Everything has a measure The meaning of extravagance and its types. Extravagance depends upon the capacity of every person. Abu Zar repels greed Such oaths are more sweet than dates and butter.”6. However if the property is not worth much, especially if its value is less than thirty Dirhams, then it is Mustahab not to swear falsely, even if it may be necessary to save oneself from the oppressor. Hazrat Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (a.s.) has quoted the following tradition from the Holy Prophet (S). Similarly if a person vows to refrain from a particular action he must feel an aversion to it or it should be something makrūh or Harām. Hence to vow to perform some lewd action is itself lewdness. Such a vow is invalid from Shari’a point of view.
Hello All my Viewers and Salaam Alaikum to my Muslim viewers I feel that today's topic is of great Importance and Requires a day for this topic so for the last two days i have been doing muchreaserch on this topic and here are my Findings...
Now before we continue i have been known to have dated while being Muslim so yes i am just as Sinful as all of you and im human so bear with me as i do my best to work on it also! and from a Hadith to get us Started! And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is ever alone with a (non-mahram) women but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2165; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1758) Dating is getting to know each other.
However the dating that is vogue in North America involves intimate relationship such as touching, kissing, petting, necking that ultimately results in pre-marital sex. This was not there in North America before the Second World War. The women used to wear long chaste dresses and their dating did not involve the close intimacy that we see today.
The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime. It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.
It is Islamically permissible for a couple to meet in chaperoned, or group environment. In Islam consent is very important- that is neither women nor men can be married against their will.
Islam has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want. Successful indeed are the believers; who are reverent during their Contact Prayers (Salat). And they avoid vain talk. And they give their obligatory charity (Zakat).
And they maintain their chastity. Only with their spouses, or those who are rightfully theirs, do they have sexual relations; they are not to be blamed. Those who transgress these limits are the transgressors. Qur'an 23:1-7 And tell the believing women to subdue their eyes, and maintain their chastity. They shall not reveal any parts of their bodies, except that which is necessary.
They shall cover their chests, and shall not relax this code in the presence of other than their husbands, their fathers, the fathers of their husbands, their sons, the sons of their husbands, their brothers, the sons of their brothers, the sons of their sisters, other women, the male servants or employees whose sexual drive has been nullified, or the children who have not reached puberty.
They shall not strike their feet when they walk in order to shake and reveal certain details of their bodies. All of you shall repent to GOD, O you believers, that you may succeed. Qur'an, 24:31 Is it wrong for two people of the opposite sex to be very good friends at school and outside of school? Dr. Muzammil Siddiqui answers " Muslims should have good elations with all people, males as well as females. At school, at work, in you neighborhood etc. you should be kind and courteous to everyone.
However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a non-mahram person or persons of the opposite gender as a very close friend. Such friendship often leads to Haram. In the Qur’an, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala mentioned that good men and women are those who marry, do not have fornicating relationships and do not have “paramours” (“akhdan” see al-Nisa’ 4:25; al-Ma’idah 5:5).
“Akhdan” are “sweethearts” or for a man a “mistress” and for a woman a “lover”. The Prophet - peace be upon him - said, whenever two strangers of the opposite gender are alone with each other, Satan becomes the third one between them.
(al-Tirmidhi, 1091). (1) Halal Dating It is a common thing to see a white woman marrying a man from a Muslim country. A question arises as to how they met each other before their marriage?
Was it a marriage arranged by their parents? They had probably met at work and dated each other. In the past Muslims did not date because of arranged marriages. Are parents in North America going to arrange the marriages of their young children as is done in some Islamic countries? In Islamic countries there are matrimonial brokers and agents who work to match the brides and bridegroom. Parents have the support of the community in finding spouses for their children.
Relatives, networking, social gatherings particularly weddings, make arranging marriages easier. In the United States, parents are left alone and cut off from these networks. "Young American Muslims have come up with creative solutions to dating--and they fall into roughly three categories. The first group is "Strict Muslims" who date halal (in an Islamically permissible style). The second group I call "Eid Muslims," because many are not strict in practice and attend mosques only on holidays.
While technically they are dating haram (unlawfully in Islam), without chaperones, they're keeping physical intimacy to a minimum and parental involvement at a maximum. The third group dates "Sex and the City"-style (definitely haram), openly and freely leading a non-Islamic lifestyle, having premarital sex sometimes in a series of monogamous relationships. " So even after all this evidence that shows dating in islam is not allowed i still pesonaly think that if you are with her Walli and her and you DO NOT TOUCH in any fashion then this means of dating is allowed.
because whats wrong with going to the movies or going out to supper with a Muslimah your intreasted in? i mean if her Walli is there with you i dont see anything wrong with it.
However im not Sheikh and this is all my Personal Oppinions right here but i honestly think it is important you have such dates to get to know eachother before marrige. So inshallah i have made some sort of Impression on you and that you read it All. May Allah bless you and keep you safe inshAllah. Aameen.
best is dating haram or makruh meaning - Difference Between Halal and Haram: Halal vs Haram
*Thanks for the A2A lol and I’m finally answering my best friend’s question* Dating is something that’s prevalent throughout the West,we see it in movies, songs related to it, and sometimes it occurs that we too want to go out on a date with someone and just ‘try’ it, experience the magic or whatever aura of romance. We make dares in which we tell people to ask someone out on a date but as Muslims are we aware of what we’re going to get into ?
It’s all unexpected in general and we don’t know how it’ll turn out in real life, in the future. And due to the fact that we are adopting our mindset to fit with the western cultures and society, we are growing negligent to how to face these issues pertaining to Islamic morales and ethics that have been put to Command by the Furqaan or criterion itself and even the actions of the living embodiment of the Quran al Furqaan that is the Prophet Muhammed(saw) himself.
‘But I really love him/her, my intentions are pure, Allah meant us to be together’ Umm.. sorry what ? I am sure you love that person, but do you know that a proper relationship initiates itself with marriage- when you go through all the tough times with each other, grow a family, go through arguments, live a proper life rather than small encounters in which you can date anyone else and say that you have feelings towards that guy/girl in the same manner.
Why do you fein to go through all these meetings as if you actually love that person, and you’re not even considering being in a proper relationship with him/her. You say it’s Allah that brought you together? I say it’s Allah that brought you a test like He does to everyone and so you should deal with it. ‘There’s no where in the Quran where it says ‘dating is haram’” Oooooh very clever indeed.
I will tell you the exact place where the Quran says it is and this will form the basis to why dating is not allowed: This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers.
And whoever denies the faith - his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers.( Surah Maidah Chapter 5 verse 5) Forget the ‘sex’ part because you will be like ‘ I don’t wish to have sex with him/her, just talk with each other and enjoy the moment’ and think about the secret lovers part. It says it right there clearly for you that ‘not unlawful…secret lovers’ and who are you infront of the clear argument or Burhaan to give your own opinion on it ?
Infact the Holy Quran even tells us in Surah Isra that: And come not near unto fornication/adultery. Lo! it is an abomination and an evil way.(17:32) The Quran doesn’t tell us ‘don’t do it’ but ‘don’t come near it’ that proves that it’s a normal thing for men and women both to have the tendency to engage in sex and come close to it.
They meet the person they like, a few outings, they get to know each other better then finally decide to have illegal sex that is a fahisha or a dirty thing and you can’t control these urges and even science proves it. And sex is an integral part for a healthy relationship and the only way a couple can do it without the burden of feeling all guilty and illegal is through marriage.
I don’t want to get into the details of Islamic marriage but you can get to know the person you’re going to marry prior to the marriage and that is not done in secrecy, but the family members know you’re going out with them there or with the members of the family present there or with a mahram person (meaning a person who you can’t marry be with you) or just be somewhere around the place where you the two people are meeting.
Did not our Prophet(saw) tell us that: No man is alone with a woman but the shaytaan is the third one present.” [Narrated by Ahmad, a2l-Tirmidhi and al-Haakim; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2546) And do you want this to happen?
No matter how good or pure something may seem to you which is actually bad, will always be haram and did not Allah warn us in the Quran about the devil who has made something haram seem fair and halal to us ??? : And We have assigned them (Shayateen) intimate companions (in this world), who have made fair-seeming to them, what was before them (from the Hereafter that there is no resurrection, Paradise or Hell) and what was behind them (he beautified for them that the world was very old, and there was no Creator except nature).'[(41): 25] So yes dating is haram in Islam.
And I have to tell you guys that the Prophet(saw) had many dates before and after receiving Allah’s Command. Wait…….. I’m talking about these dates: Depends on how you perceive the word “Dating”. For many of you dating must mean cuddling on the bench in a park, enjoying the view, holding hands etc. That is not how it works. In Islam, the potential couple is allowed to have conversation, via face to face or social media, but only under the supervision of an adult (girl’s father).
Touching a woman before marrying her is prohibited, but nowadays some cultural influences have stopped this Halal practice and couples only see each other after marriage (happens in most Muslim countries) which is not right according to Islam and human physcology. Islam is based on Logic and Rationality and most cultural factors lack logic and reasoning.
That’s why I believe that you must Learn about Islam and contact the Teachers who have Adequate Knowledge of Islam. Assalam Alaikum!
Assalamu 'Alaikum wa RahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh. Please be respectful and no name-calling or huge wars that make everybody participating look bad, mm'kay?
Brother and sisters, can you please tell this distressed wannabe-artist whether it is permissable to draw or not? Obviously not intending to worship it. I'm not talking plants and such as pretty much everybody accepts that as being fine, I'm talking about animals and humans. My friend also does icons with pictures of animals and birds, both photographic and drawn, though she only edits the pictures. For of what I draw...
wouldn't say they even look all that human considering the anime style. >>; But in any case, my religion teacher believes it is always haram and wasilla lil shirk.
Worthy of note is that she's extremist as heck and scares the other teachers-- she one time went nuts in morning assembly chastizing the students for clapping, which she believes is haram at all times despite it being the woman's way of telling someone they made a mistake in prayer.
You know how some people draw a line across the neck in drawings to make 'em halal? I have no idea why they do that as I always think '... dabiha?' but she thinks it's wrong that you have to decapitate the human/animal completely, drawing the head in one place and the body in another. So we've got the whole Muusa ('alaihil salam)'s peoples' worshipping at graves before moving onto worshipping the graves themselves story... My step-mother now believes because of the every musawir is in Hell ayah that too, kind of.
She says I should stop drawing details on the face and hands and such. I pointed out the illustrations in the schoolbooks for literature class (I currently go to school in Saudi Arabia, so yeah) and the faces have almost no detail to them at all. No eyes, no nose, no mouth, a small SUGGESTION of a chin in the head shape, but she says they shouldn't even part the hand and give fingers, instead making it just a mound.
She also believes plushies are haram. I hope nobody thinks I am joking. Any replies like 'you need mental help' or other such unhelpful replies are not appreciated in the slightest. Wa 'alaikumu assallam.
List of Haram Things for Men & Women in Islam