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Although we know the risks from booking tickets with the lowest cost internet services, what is the view on KIWI.COM? They offer, through connecting flights using low cost flights, very low international air fares on their website. The criticism always was that as they are usually using separate carriers, if a connection is missed, the customer loses out. They have to make alternative arrangements on the spot themselves and there is no legal redress if they have to pay more, as they are not using the same carrier.
Kiwi.com makes a promise on their website that in case of missed connections, they will (one way or the other) make sure the customer does not lose out. What's the flaws (if any) with this? #4 of 1,506 · I wouldn't touch them with a bargepole. Even if this "protection coverage" is genuine the T+Cs make it very difficult to make a claim, especially if you're stranded somewhere overseas and panicking.
Also, they don't give you any breakdown as to what each of the separate tickets cost, and although they state "one free checked bag" there have been many complaints that they haven't booked the flights that way. Book your flights on one ticket to get the in-built protection from the airline(s). And it's best by far to book directly with the airlines.
Only if the airline(s) concerned don't show a suitable itinerary should you consider a third party, and that third party should be a reputable **full service** travel agent, not an online booker. #5 of 1,506 · Thanks for the advice. I have used the online services that offer lower fares and I can't say I have problems with those. Don't forget that most of the time (though not always) paying directly with the airlines is going to be dearer, sometimes considerably so, and I need to take this into account.
That said, I would consider going with Kiwi.com perhaps a step too far. I know they were formerly known as skypickers. However, so far as I know, skypickers did not offer any guarantees over missed connections.
best kiwi date culture - Kiwi Traditions. Language, food and culture
- Rant starts - I went on a date. Well, not really a date, but more of a first meeting between myself and a stranger who I met on online dating before . Over coffee, we began the process of swapping life stories, discussing our upbringings, choice in careers, thoughts on the role the weather plays on the collective psyche.
Yep, pretty serious stuff. We broke the rules of things not to talk about when meeting someone for the first time, namely: ex-partners, money, and thoughts on casual sex. Seriously, short of debating religion and politics, we pretty much nailed everything taboo that two people could ever discuss.
One of the major things we talked about was our thoughts on the Kiwi dating scene, or lack thereof. My new friend, from Canada, explained to me how blown away he was at then New Zealand relationship style - which basically involves two people drunkenly meeting, kissing, going home together, waking up and BOOM! You're in a relationship. (I don't believe he actually used the term "BOOM!" - I just added that for effect).
When I lived in Hamilton, it was very much the way. The expectation was if you "hooked up" with someone, then you were therefore seeing them exclusively and your parents had the green light to begin wedding preparations.
Here in Wellington, there seems to be someone for everyone too... Most people I know are happily coupled up. In New Zealand, he said, there was no scene for singles. New York, Wellington is not. (Therefore Carrie Bradshaw, I am also not. I can but try). I hadn't thought about that before but I think he was right. People don't date anymore. Sure, they think they go on dates. After meeting on Courtenay Place on a Saturday night, they may catch a movie on Wednesday, but by the following weekend - it's full steam ahead to relationshipville (i.e.
the change of Facebook relationship status - the ultimate relationship barometer of Gen Y), despite barely knowing this person. But they're not dates - they're box-ticking exercises done because, well, that's the way we do things in these parts.
But it doesn't mean that it is right. To me, dating is what smart women (and men) do. Why and how on earth could or would you get in to a relationship with someone who days, maybe even hours before, you didn't know?
New Zealand seems to treat singledom in a very odd way. Not only is it a failure, it's a situation to be avoided at all costs because, socially, it's not the done thing. I want to start a revolution, and give happy singles a voice. Who's with me? Do you think there's a dating scene, or the culture is to settle down asap because everyone else is? If so, what on earth is the hurry? You have to nab them before someone else does? I don't get it - at all.
- Rant ends - Got a dating issue you want Greer 2.0 to tackle? Email or follow her or - The Dominion Post kater #2 10:27 am Apr 29 2009 Am so with you on this. I've been on a few dates with someone over the last couple of weeks and people seem to be assuming that we are now 'an item'. Yet, to us, we're not there yet. Yes we are enjoying spending time together but neither of us is at the point of considering the other one their boy/girlfriend - and it's cool! It has taken a bit of readjustment as we realise that it is ok to just date and not be in a full-on relationship from the word go.
Not saying I wouldn't like it to go there (sorry for double negative) but what's the rush? OK, we have added each other on facebook but that was really just so we could perv at each other's profiles - no status changes have taken place.
A dating culture would be a nice thing in NZ, it's hard enough meeting people without the pressure that if you ask someone out on a date you're now going together. At the moment, hardly anyone would bowl up to someone who caught their eye and ask them out as that person would probably look at them like they were some kind of freak, yet life is full of these incidental meetings and we're missing out by feeling like it's not ok to ask out a complete stranger just cause we like the look of them.
hmmm, I could probably rant on about this myself all day but shall leave it there...for now. CMT #3 10:41 am Apr 29 2009 Greer, you're so right!
NZers don't have dating rituals/rules. I've noticed guys don't even want to say the word "date" any more - are they worried it could be taken too seriously? I've had the "we should meet for a drink after work" thing a few times, which is pretty casual and fine with me but I get the feeling we're all drifting, rudderless, in a sea of confusion.
Bring on the singles revolution, complete with proper dating! Esprit #4 10:55 am Apr 29 2009 Aah, the Kiwi 'dating' scheme!
Note the use of inverted commas. I've long since held the belief that Kiwis, in general, don't know how to date. In the traditional Americanised sense that I subscribe to, dating is a vastly different animal to what it is here in NZ.
I date on and off and at times may date more than one person at once, but don't generally get "physical" with anyone until such a time as I feel it's time to be dating more exclusively. To my mind, the kiwi psyche is to date with a mind to scoring and then score with a view to relationships.
That is of course unless you're trying your hand at being a player. To me, dating is just getting to know someone, hanging out and having a good time, perhaps a little flirtation and the like. Dating may lead to a relationship but they're certainly not hand-in-glove like a lot of people seem to think they are in NZ.
Dave #5 10:58 am Apr 29 2009 Yup, definitely with you on that Greer. The idea that you're with someone from the word go is off. I mean, if you don't like someone after the first couple of weeks, or decide that they're nice, but it isn't going to go any further, then what? You have to break up?
Seems a little silly. Much better I think to get to know people, decide if you like them and want it to go further and then go from there. No rush. I dont think there has to be the definitive "now youre in a relationship, now youre not" that people seem to look for. Well, maybe the now you're not, always helps if thats clear. SS #7 11:45 am Apr 29 2009 You say: "Why and how on earth could or would you get in to a relationship with someone who days, maybe even hours before, you didn't know?" My question is: Why and how on earth could or would you have sex with someone who days, maybe even hours before, you didn't know?
Yuk! Geoff #8 12:02 pm Apr 29 2009 I don't believe that I've ever been on anything that could be considered to be a "date" until after a relationship has already begun. However, using technology (email, MSN, text/phone etc) to get to know someone well enough to consider a relationship is something I tend to do.
Especially since I'm not the going out on the town type. Mel #9 12:15 pm Apr 29 2009 From what I have seen of the "singles scene", I agree Greer (and I even did some research at uni on the topic - now THAT was eye opening for a "single and not looking, but open to the possibility" kinda gal) Because of that knowledge, and a will to do things differently, I think my lovely man and I did the dating thing quite well. We met through a "sports group", so we had something in common.
He caught my eye at a weekend event, so I asked him out for coffee, completely socially, simply to see if the catching of my eye would lead to any sparks. We then went for drinks and nibbles the next week. A couple of weeks later after some texts and emails, and another couple of casual meetings, I asked him to be an exclusive couple to see how that went. For about a month we continued relating the same as when we went for our first couple of dates - casually meeting up after work for drinks, a couple of Friday night movies just to see how being exclusive sat with us both - before deciding that yeah, we felt like a couple and finally getting around to getting physical, which also built up gradually.
So, from meet to sleep with was at least a 6-8 week process. From meet to exclusive was at least 4 of that. In all honesty, if things hadnt gone well on the first couple of dates, (or even in the first couple of weeks from going exclusive) I think we still could have socialised as friends from there on in as there was no pressure - rather more a gradual checking each other out for potential and moving from there.
But then, I think I'm one of the lucky few who get to start a relationship like that!! China #10 12:15 pm Apr 29 2009 @ Espirit, totally agree that the dating culutre here in NZ is very different to America and I also agree with other comments about meeting someone, hooking up (rather quickly)then all of sudden being a relationship with them. I haven't really thought about this before, but that could be because I've only been single for around 6 months.
My question is - where do you meet other singles?! I've noticed myself checking for wedding rings before I start getting too involved in conversations with people. I think that's strange - is it? And please tell me where in Welly you can meet nice normal single people that would like to 'date'! Registration is not required to post a comment but if you , you will not have to enter your details each time you comment.
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Dating in South Korea can be hard, frustrating, and confusing. If you’re Korean you might not see it this way, but if you are a Western man or woman who just moved to the country, you know exactly what I mean.
It’s very different from back home. In fact, it’s different from any other country you’ve probably been to. Whether you are a man or a woman, gay or straight, there will be moments when you think to yourself… “What the hell did I get myself into?” Don’t get me wrong: just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean that it’s bad. I love South Korea and meeting people in this country is an adventure. You can be part of this adventure, but only if you understand what dating in Korea is really like.
Take a look at the following eight unique characteristics about Korean dating culture and decide for yourself if you want to embark on what could be an interesting journey. 1. Expect to Get Introduced to People I have good news for you.
In case you’re one of those people who start to sweat, stumble, and freak out whenever you approach a stranger, you can take a deep breath and relax. You don’t have to do this to meet people in Korea. It might be normal to walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself back home. It’s definitely not as common in South Korea.
People usually don’t do it. If you want to follow the rules, you shouldn’t either. Koreans don’t always meet new people by themselves. They let others arrange meetings for them. Sounds quite convenient, doesn’t it? It is, and it can also be fun as hell. Just imagine it. You just have to ask your friends or your family to introduce you to someone and a couple of days later you have a date.
It can’t get any easier than that. While blind dates are seen as last options in some part of the world, they are completely normal in South Korea. Everyone and their grandmother go on blind dates.
And it gets even better. There are different types of blind dates you can choose from. You can either be introduced by a friend or by your parents, or you can go on group blind dates. The choice is yours. Just make sure that you can trust your parents when it comes to choosing the right partner. You might be up for a surprise. 2. Don’t Expect to Spend a Lot of Time with Your Partner As someone who works in Korea, you know how much leisure time you have.
Yes, exactly. You don’t even know what leisure time is. Korean people are well-known for having extremely tight schedules and working until they burn out. I’m not here to discuss whether that’s good or bad.
The fact is your Korean partner might not have too much time on their hands. The pressure starts in school and continues on when your partner has a stable career. In fact, it only gets worse. Stress is a part of life in Korea and in a country where 60-hour work-weeks are the norm, you can’t expect your partner to spend time with you 24/7.
It’s just not possible, especially because hwae-shiks (after-work drinks and dinners) are common in Korea. The upside to this is that the longer you live in South Korea, the more you’ll appreciate every minute you can spend with the person you love.
3. Avoid Showing Affection in Public You better avoid showing affection in public. I know, it’s completely normal in the West. But that doesn’t mean that it’s normal in the East.
Even though South Korea has experienced rapid industrialization, and is considered to be one of the , its culture is still very traditional. Showing affection in public is one of the things that some people wouldn’t do in this country. Just imagine you meet someone you really like.
You go on your first date and everything seems to be perfect. You have the same values, the same goals, and the same vision of the future. Now it’s even more important that you hold yourself back. 4. Smileys and Messages are a Way to Show Affection If kissing in public is a no-go, how do Koreans show affection?
Let me answer this question with another question: Do you like smartphones? In case you hate everything from WhatsApp to Facebook Messenger, you will have a hard time in Korea. Yes, Kissing in public is frowned upon, but showing your affection with smileys, text messages, and regular phone calls is completely normal. In case you’ve never before, you should be aware that Koreans love their smartphones.
Unless you’re constantly replying to a never-ending stream of text messages, they might come over to see if you’re alright. It’s also not uncommon to spend the whole night chatting. 5. There’s Nothing More Important than Family There’s one thing you need to know about dating a Korean and you have to be cool with it.
There’s nothing more important for a Korean man or woman than family. That’s not bad, but it can get quite stressful. It’s important to honor your in-laws and to treat them with respect. Also, don’t forget to stay calm when your partner’s mom calls for the third time to check if everything is alright.
Take a deep breath and remember that it’s completely normal. It’s normal for Koreans to have contact with their family members, especially their mothers, every day of the week. 6. Prepare Yourself for a Social Media Contest Let’s say you have found the perfect partner. You get along with the in-laws and you don’t even mind eating Kimchi every second evening. However, there’s one thing that really bugs you.
Every meal has to be photographed and uploaded on Facebook. You have to stop your conversation every ten minutes because it’s time to take a selfie. And it takes another two minutes to upload the selfie on Instagram with the perfect hashtag.
Well, what can I say? No matter if you’re dating a Korean man or woman, prepare yourself for a social media contest. That’s the reality of being in a relationship in this country. Koreans are extremely proud of their relationships and showing the world how happy they are is one of their biggest passions.
You might hate it, but you have to get used to it. 7. You Have to Celebrate a Lot Have I mentioned that Koreans are extremely proud of their relationships?
Yep, that’s true. In fact, being in a relationship is something to be proud of. It’s celebrated more times than you might like. In Western countries it’s common to celebrate once a year. That’s nothing for Koreans. They celebrate at least once a month. It’s not uncommon to celebrate your relationship on your 100th, 200th, 300th anniversary and so on. Oh, and then there’s the celebration you have on every 14th of each months. It’s always a different theme, but the same principal.
You spend the little free time you have with your partner and you cherish your relationship. While this tradition is kind of cute, it can get quite stressful and expensive, especially when it’s time to buy the infamous couple ring that every man has to buy for his Korean girlfriend after 100 days into the relationship.
8. Walking Around in Couple Shirts is Not Weird When Everyone Does it What happens when you wear couple shirts on the beach in Santa Monica?
You will end up on YouTube and someone might even ask you if your better half is paying you to wear it. What happens if you do the same thing on a busy street in Seoul? Nothing happens because there are thousands of other couples who do the same. I’m not joking. In South Korea it’s completely normal to run around in couple shirts. They are sold everywhere. Think twice before you laugh at the idea. One day you might come to Korea and fall in love with a local.
And no matter how many times you tell yourself “I would never wear couple shirts”, you’ll probably find yourself wearing one at some point.
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