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Contents • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • Bullet Summary • You can’t wait for a woman to make you happy: you must build your own fulfilling life • Love yourself. Work on yourself because you want, not because you’re not good enough (you are) • Take lots of action • Never change yourself: be you and look for a woman with whom you naturally get along Full Summary The Dating Playbook For Men spans self-help, dating, sex and relationships.
I will skip the relationship bit. The Grounded Man The author talks about the “grounded man”, which would be his version of a . The grounded man: • He knows what he wants • Takes action towards his goals • Has something more important going on in his life than women • Does not sacrifice his self-worth for the attention of a woman • Has a strong set of values that he lives by • He does not need a woman, he wants a woman The first two chapters basically discuss the grounded man and pushes the reader to look at himself and ask: are you living the life you really want?
The key, says Ferebee, is to care less and less of what others think of you. Admit it, he says, . Be Happy Without a Woman The author says that some men are looking at external factors, including women, to make them happy.
But a woman will never make you happy. Nothing external will ever make you happy as a matter of fact. You have to . that something that motivates you and gets you up in the morning Happiness, says the author, is living in integrity with what you value.
And they have to be your values. You need to live by your own rules to be happy and fulfilled. Be In Love With Who You Are The author stress the importance of linking yourself. You must love and appreciate who you are. You choose to grow and develop, but because you choose to, not because you need it.
My Note: I find this difference in “choosing” to improve instead of “having to” a bit empty and uneeded. I believe a man with an can accept that he must improve while still believing he’s a great catch. By reading book like The Dating Playbook For Men, says the author, shows that you don’t allow your ego to get in the way of your personal growth.
And that puts you already in the top 1%. Don’t Prove Yourself The author says that you shouldn’t prove yourself to women. Some men try to talk women’s off on how good they are, or “trying to show higher value” like some . The author instead says that beauty should not be enough for you.
You should check if her value match your value system, and if she doesn’t she’s not for you. Don’t Try to Get Women to Like You Indeed, The Dating Playbook For Men advocates that you don’t even try to get all women to like you. You should always be yourself and be on the lookout for women who vibe with who you are. Always Be Having Fun Life is short and we must live it to the fullest. Bring that child together into this life and enjoy yourself.
People want to be around people who enjoy life. Jerks and Good Guys Andrew Ferebee says that women want both jerks and good guys… In the same guy. Women want when who respect them and can be nice to them. But also men who can assert themselves and impose themselves when the situation calls for it. He says that many men want the girl next door who’s pretty but can also get nasty in bed.
Well, women want the same thing for men. Take Action Andrew Ferebee says that to get good you must take a lot of action.
Going out two nights a week should be your minimum. He recommends bars and clubs because that’s where you get the highest density of women and where you can get the most interactions per hour. How to Approach After the self-help part the author goes into . He says that if it’s weird you should acknowledge it openly. For example: “I’m really shy” or “I know it’s weird but.. “. Try to make her talk more than you talk, but when you questions make sure you don’t fall into interviewing mode with one question right after another.
Instead of using questions, think of using statements. Try to keep talking for longer so that you can build a connection. Very quick interactions with phone numbers, says the author, don’t go anywhere. And when you exchange phone numbers, make sure you stay one minute longer after the phone number. Seed The Date Social Skills First Andrew says that before getting into seduction and women, you should focus on your and your understanding of social dynamics, which indeed makes sense.
Texting The author says that if you got her phone number early in the night, text her during that same night. For example: “what are you doing” or “where are you”. If you cannot meet her right that same day, the goal is to build rapport ( my note: agree much here, it’s difficult building rapport via text). As a rule of thumb, keep your text as long as hers or shorter. Read more: • • • • (templates of text by text to set up dates) Date The author recommends for dates in the evening or night, going for happy hour, yoghurt or coffe.
He recommends you pay and sit side by side instead of across of each other. Change venues whenever you can and when you want to invite her home just say that you’re going back to your place for a couple drinks and she should come with you.
If she refuses, don’t get fazed by it or you’ll ruin the date. Just keep enjoying the time together instead. Real Life Applications Avoid Social Date Events I loved one of the reason why the author recommends Make The Drink In Front of Her I couldn’t help but nod and confirm that this is a small but genius advice.
More than one woman told me that wouldn’t have drank if I didn’t make the drink in front of them or opened a new bottle. If You’re Taking Her Back to Her Place… … Ask her to use her restroom to get inside. CONS Maybe not Deep Enough in Dating Advice From a book with the title “The Dating Playbook For Men” I was expecting a lot of techniques and dating strategies. There are some, but it falls a bit short in the nitty gritty in my opinion. Not Always Top Advice The mindsets are very good and the dating advice is good more times yes than not.
But still, there are a few recommendation that very much fall flat in my opinion. For example the author recommends you don’t make the phone number your goal.
Very true. And then he recommends that to ask for her phone number you say “let’s exchange contact real quick”. With the “real quick” which supposedly “increases conversation rate”. It sounded contrived to me and coming from a weak mindset. Or: • He recommends you keep sending texts from the moment you agree on a date till the day of the date, which I also don’t agree with.
• “Never skip foreplays”, while I hold more a belief that you should always walk the shortest line possible towards the first time you have sex, and often you can get there without foreplays and even without kissing Some Made Up Facts Sometimes I felt as if the author based his attraction theory on what fits his narrative rather than what’s actually grounded in reality.
For example he says that you should move ahead in life. True. And then he adds “women are attracted to momentum more than success. Well, are we sure? Pep-Talkey At times it feels a little bit too much like a pep talk. “You are enough”, “you are perfect as you are” etc. Upsell There is quite a bit of upsell in The Dating Playbook For Men.
PROS Holistic Approach on Self-Development I’m not a fan of dating books talking about self-help. But it’s still important, and Andrew hits the nail on the head on that topic. Very Good Insights Andrew Ferebee shares a lot of solid advice and he gets lots of stuff right. Good Psychology The author has a good grasp of psychology and psychology of dating. For example, he says that sex is the ultimate form of submission for a woman, which indeed is a shrewd observation.
Review The Dating Playbook For Men is 50% dating knowledge and techniques and 50% self help content. In a way, it’s not too dissimilar from the very popular .
Personally, I prefer books to be laser focused on a specific topic, but that’s also a matter a preference. Overall, it’s a solid book. It has both good self-development content and good dating advice. or
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First dates eh. Fun opportunity to showcase your conversational superlativeness or hideous social obstacle course where you savagely stack it at every hurdle (NOT EVEN ALWAYS A METAPHOR). Well, if you're firmly in the latter camp, don't feel bad, because you're definitely not alone. According to research by Halls Menthol sweets (I guess there's a link there somewhere) nearly a third of men and women they surveyed admitted being massively nervous before a first date and acting like an idiot as a result.
So, as the goer-on of around ten trillion first dates (approx numbers) I thought I would share my tips to doing so in style. Or at least with the minimum shameful moments of traumatic hideousness possible. YAY! Dress like a normal person And by that, I mean comfortably. Yes, you might have these amazing new skyscraper heels with make your legs look incredible except you can't actually walk in them?
NO. Yes you might have this incredible corsetty vintage dress which is amazing except you can't actually breathe in it? NO. You can be as edgy as you like, but don't wear clothes that turn basic movement into a challenge.
You've got enough to contend with. Have one pre-date drink Just to take the edge off. Note by one, I mean one single measure/small glass of wine, not one entire bottle, oops, where did that go, oh well, date time, hic. OR - get there early and take the opportunity to get one in before he arrives. NB the other benefit of this is not having to do the hideous walk through the bar/look for him manoeuvre of uncool awks because you are already seated/busy with your phone and he can find you actually kthxbai.
Have an opener One of the easiest first dates I've had started disastrously - while I was getting ready the cat-I'm-sort-of-stealing bit my face and I had a massive panic (a friend of mine had recently been bitten in the arm by a cat and spent a week in hospital having what we affectionately termed 'The Mutant Claw' seen to). After consulting Dr Google (never a good idea) and slathering my whole face in Savlon, I arrived, half an hour late, mildly hysterical and smelling a bit like the doctors.
BUT I had a brilliant opening story, involving both embezzled felines and near-death experiences. So don't be afraid to go in with something vaguely prepped. I'd probably advise against the Savlon though unless abs necc.
Remember he's nervous too The stats speak for themselves - according to the Halls survey 8% of guys have got their date's name wrong while 2% confessed to being so nervous they actually fell over (LOLZ).
And sometimes just knowing he's nervous is enough to make you less nervous. And maybe a bit smug. Check how un-nervous I am, Nervo! *Trips over stool. Falls onto floor* Try not to fill up every silence It might seem like a good idea to keep the conversation going by unleashing each and every funny story in your back catalogue, but first dates are about getting to know EACH OTHER.
Once I was so concerned with filling the gaps with a not-quite-so talkative date, I convinced myself we were way more compatible than we actually turned out to be. If he's not volunteering the ace anecdotes, then encourage him with a 'So have you ever [insert whatever the hell you were talking about here]? And if he doesn't have any, then at least you've uncovered Mr Borezo MacBorerson on date one (not date ten and a holiday - SOB) Don't give yourself a hard time Whatever happens and however badly it goes, don't punish yourself over it.
People are way more self and self-obsessed than you think (sadfactoflife) and the chances are he's been so busy worrying about that lame-joke-tumbleweed-moment/unfortunate horse laugh he hasn't even considered your date disasts. And even if he has - who cares? You'll learn from it and have a smoother first date next time round.
Plus it's like pub story gold, so at least your friends will love you. Ah. Lovely friends. So much better than a first date. Have you ever had a first date nightmare? Tweet me
"I found Prince Charming by following The Rules and so can you! I rarely called him or met him halfway. He loved the chase." - , married 2012. In February 1995, a new dating book hit shelves, claiming to offer "time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr. Right." It became a national best seller, teaching women all over the world how to snag a man, keep him on the line, and reel that sucker all the way to the altar.
Authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein took a wise and biting tone with readers, outlining such unbreakable principles as, "Always end phone calls first," and "be a little distant and difficult." The 36 Rules became a thrilling new phenomenon, fundamentally based on the oldest game in town: playing very, very hard to get. Looking back, one can see how The Rules got a foothold in the 90s. Third-wave feminism was cresting across the country, bringing with it Riot Grrrls, The Vagina Monologues, and Take Your Daughter To Work Day.
With any movement comes a backlash, and The Rules came hard and fast, telling all those women that equality is fine at the office, but it won't put a ring on your finger — and that's what you really want, right? From the start, the book had its critics — those who called out the book as an , "." Indeed, the entire program hinged on the concept of men as dimwitted hunters and women as the elusive, shiny-haired bait. Yet, the first printing alone sold over a quarter of a million copies in the U.S., and was soon reprinted in 18 different languages.
" The Rules relies on a very traditional sense of what love and courtship are," says writer, speaker, and technologist Samhita Mukhopadhyay. "It feeds into a nostalgia around romance, and that can be very provocative." Mukhopadhyay, a leading voice on feminist issues, is the author of , which analyzes the ramifications of ingrained societal influences on modern dating practices. "A lot of what is talked about in books like this is the same advice your grandma might give you," Mukhopadhyay explains, pointing out that this can make advice feel more resonant and true to readers — even if, in reality, it's merely old-fashioned.
"That said, I think the advice works sometimes," she adds. "Men are also fed very antiquated notions of what dating should look like, so it becomes a signaling system where women being forward is somehow a sign that they are desperate, because they're breaking the mold of what it means to date as straight people." It's the enduring strength of that age-old system that's kept so many people playing by The Rules for so long.
But, 20 years later, is the game finally changing? For Schneider and Fein, who've devoted their careers to this program, the answer is an unequivocal "nope!" To them, The Rules is not about manipulation; it's about preventing women from making avoidable dating mistakes and getting hurt because of them.
"One of our clients — before she started working with us — broke all the Rules, and a guy dumped her," says Sherrie. "She couldn’t get out of bed for a month.
She couldn’t go to work. And, she works in high finance!" Both Ellen and Sherrie claim to be feminists, and they shrug off any claims to the contrary. In their opinion, "feminism is about equal pay for equal work, owning a condo, or running a marathon," says Sherrie. "But, it’s not about asking men out, paying for dates, or being a man. Women cannot be men, romantically." In the years since first publishing, the authors have put out four additional Rules books, including The Rules For Marriage and The Rules For Online Dating.
Not Your Mother's Rules came out in 2013, revamping the advice and catering to young women who are dating in the age of social media. Here, you'll find Rules like, "Wait for a guy to follow you on Twitter first," and, "Wait at least four hours to return a guy's first text." Chapters also include tips for weight loss ("an average-looking slender girl has a better chance of attracting a guy than a very pretty overweight girl") and a section titled "Be Cautious About Date Rape." "If you do decide to drink, be smart about it," say Ellen and Sherrie.
"On campus, you hear about date rape all too often — stories of girls who drank too much and suffered the consequences." The Rules may have evolved since 1995, but the Rules Girl looks the same: She is aloof and demure. She wears only high heels and push-up bras with "big (three-inch) hoop earrings" and a "chunky gold watch." She waxes, uses contacts ("try blue and green shades!"), and dyes her hair blonde.
She doesn't return calls, doesn't blab about her career success ("try to let him shine!"), and doesn't drink so much that she lets herself get raped.
She waits at least four dates to move beyond kissing, because when she does finally have sex with a guy, "there is no going back," Ellen and Sherrie remind her. "You should continue to sleep with him if you have already. Otherwise, he will think you are spiteful." In addition to their books, Ellen and Sherrie provide courses and one-on-one coaching. Just 15 minutes on the phone with one of them will run you $150 (but you can purchase five minutes for $50 if you just have a "very quick question").
For $1,200, one of them will meet you at the Short Hills Mall in New Jersey for four hours of private consultation. Other services included on The Rules site include, "Rebuilding Your Self-Confidence," "How To Write A Bestseller," and "Ghostwriting (Books And Blogs, And Even College Essays!)" For the die-hard Rules Girls, there's a course for becoming a certified Rules Coach. I spoke with , a Rules Coach based in Los Angeles.
On her blog, Platinum Girl: The World's Most Precious Woman, Taylor analyzes celebrity relationships through the lens of The Rules. Like Ellen and Sherrie, she thinks The Rules are tools for women to stop men from ruining their lives. "You can see Britney Spears’ demise happened around the same time she proposed to Kevin Federline," she says.
"He never really wanted her." Vanessa sweetly gushed about her own recent marriage and how The Rules helped her find — and keep — her dream guy. "It’s funny, because my now-husband knew what I was up to. He tried calling me out on it, saying, 'I don’t need to play these rules with you.
I don’t need to do this.'" But, she persevered despite his protestations. Texting is Vanessa's forte (she later wrote a book titled, Text Love Power: The Girls Guide to Texting & Dating) and she turned the medium into a veritable mousetrap to ensnare her man. For example, "Over a three-day weekend, I didn’t respond to 12 of his texts," Vanessa explains. As expected, this drove her guy up the wall. "He was insane!" she continues, "But, that's kind of what you want." Soon enough, he was pleading for a response.
"He'd be like, 'It would be really great to hear from you, just a simple hi.'" Still, she let him dangle, even when she sensed him getting upset: "He might get a little angry, but he didn't want to seem like a nutcase." In Vanessa's case, the method worked.
But, there's always risk involved. "One of my clients had a guy threaten to break up with her when she wouldn't respond to his texts. But, I told her, 'We don't go text for text.' Just because he sends a message doesn't mean you're obligated to respond all the time." There is a kind of empowerment in a concept like that. How often have we analyzed and fretted over the precise timing and language of a text conversation?
Perhaps all this calculated coquetting is anti-feminist and old-fashioned, but so is sitting at home and staring at the phone. The only trouble with The Rules is that whether you reply or not, you're still doing it for the guy. Vanessa puts a more flexible spin on Ellen and Sherrie's program. For her, it boils down to creating healthy boundaries and establishing your own power in the relationship, right from the start.
Inarguably, that's a healthy and feminist intention. Some women might pull this off naturally, confident enough in their own worth and instincts to text back whenever they feel like it. Some men might not be alpha-texters, out hunting for a blonde in hoop earrings. But, a Rules Girl doesn't take risks like that. She puts in her blue or green contacts, and she checks the chart on page 66 to ascertain Minimum Text-Back Time.
"The biggest criticism I hear from girls is, 'how can I be with someone if I can't be myself?'" says Vanessa. As ever, the answer is clear and irrefutable: "Make it yourself. Make it yourself and believe it." Whether or not The Rules works isn't really up for debate. It does, for many women. Still, certain elements of social life have evolved since 1995 — and not just the size of our telephones. "I think people are just changing (slowly), and men are becoming more accustomed to women being more forward," says Samhita Mukhopadhyay.
"Who asks whom out first isn't going to change the long-term potential of a relationship," she concludes. "Sometimes, that's just the first move that will determine whether or not you're dating a sexist." But, for Rules Girls, there is no sexist or not-sexist.
There are men and there are women, period. Two teams, and one goal. By and large, they are all conditioned to enjoy the game. But, what happens to the Rules Girl when she wins?
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