Even better, if your boyfriend's ex turned out to be gay (or straight, if you're gay) and that's why their relationship ended, then there's not as much of a chance that something inappropriate is happening between them After meeting his ex, if you can tell that she definitely still carries a torch for him, advise your boyfriend of this. If you're uncomfortable with the idea of his talking to someone who clearly still wants him, don't be afraid to let him know. Signs Your Man Isn't Over His Ex Then he found out that I had dated my best friend son who is 25 and yes I Iwas 46. He then got upset got mad said how can I be going and visiting my friend when he's there and he probably wants to get in my pants. Well my friend and I stopped being friends because she didn't trust him around her son.
after a breakup, your friend is supposed to be there to support you, not pick your ex up on the rebound because he's finally single. If a friend wants to date the ex, it is always going to be a difficult situation.
I know because this happened to me. It hurt so bad to watch someone who I thought was my best friend hanging all over my first love (my ex). I told her that since I still had feelings for him, her behavior hurt my feelings. But she had her eye on him for some time so she didn't mind betraying me and going after him. They completely ganged up on me and tried to convince me that the breakup was my fault and that I was a horrible person, and how they were so deeply and madly in love.
Basically they made my freshman year of high school a living hell. After they broke up, I found out that he just wanted her as a rebound girlfriend because he couldn't handle being single... this girl doesnt seem like a very true friend if she'd rather date your ex than help you through a hard time, and I'm not sure what to say other than don't try to break them up. They're a mess and they'll probably do anything to make you feel bad and prove to you that it's ok for them to be dating.
Please, just back out of the situation, those two are BAD NEWS. This just resently happened to me and he didn't break up with me until after she said she would go out with him. Then when I got mad she told me and I quote " well at least the one who loves him the most won this time" and this is the second time now that she's gotten with my exs hours of even minutes after I told her we broke up she has really hurt me and so has he should I man up and forgive them Your Ex is fair game, you do not own that person nor do you own your their emotions.
This should not be him or me deal and you have no right to say who can date who. Since your Ex was once your friend you can think of it as your friends are dating each other not your friend and an Ex. You'll have more dates so whats the big deal? It's almost like you want to sabotage the chance of others finding potential happiness and love because you're miserable seeing what you once had.
If you were a true friend you wouldn't be so selfish @ Pink Pggy- Maybe he just TOLD you he thought she was ugly and fat as to suppress your suspicions. Anyways, Yeah- that is a relational transgression. I left an abusive relationship of four years and my childhood friends ditched me and still hang out with the fat fucking bastard. This is why I would rather not have friends. Apparently my standards are too high when I say "dont date my ex's, and don't stop being my friend for no reason". To quote one of the great poets of our time, if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it.
Okay I actually think that, don't be confused by the shit I dress my opinions up in. You broke up with them, they're not your problem anymore. It's a problem if they start talking about your genitals behind your back or something, though.
watch for that. It depends on how serious your relationship was with him. If it wasn't so much, then no. But if it really was, then for sure! Also, I would be mad because she should have asked you if you're okay with it first.That's always the first thing to do. It also depends on how close a friend she was to you! Was she close? Then yes. Not very? Then no. It just depends. I understand what you are all saying thanks a lot for helping me.. But it's weird because when me and my ex were talkin before (when we were dating) he said that he hates my best friend and thinks she's ugly.
Then a couple weeks after we broke up and they started dating my ex said haha look we are so in love and I hate her (me) and then they kissed right jn front of me so I really don't think I should be her friend and yellowchalk well it kinda depends... i mean either way, you should never end a friendship over a guy(although in your case, i can see why you did) BUT, if u dumped him, hes got every right to date your friend...
u cant control his actions anymore... and if he dumped you, i could see why your a bit angry. so in a sense, theyre both free as a bird, and should both get the chance to be happy. but your "friend" should also remember that he hurt you, and if she really was your friend shed comfort you, and then afterword if they wanted to date then hell's bells, they should get to.... it really just depends on the situation girly girl my best friend really likes my ex, even though she knows he treated me horribly and broke my heart, she even kissed him last week.
what she doesnt know is that he thinks shes ugly and fat and only leads her on to get rides because the lazy piece of shit doesnt have his own car.... i tried to warn her but she doesnt want to hear it. whatever, shell figure it out soon enough. He is your ex. It is no longer any of your business whom he decides to date. And you can't expect your best friend chuck him just for you. She is also pursuing her own happiness and you can't stop her from doing just that. You dont need to be mad at her, just stay away from her (if you feel weird).
just wait and see what will happen between them. They finally married? Ohhh good. They find their happiness. Or they breakup? Its up to you how u feel when they breakup. And If it's been a month or years , i think it's fine. Your bestfriend is not "betrayed" you. Grow up. Dont ignore the truth that you can't accept. The truth is he is not yours anymore. It's different depending on the situation. Sometimes the person you're best friends with, you're best friends with because they're very much like you.
The same thing goes with people you go out with. That means in all likelihood your friends and your ex's will get on well. The problem is, if posed with the question "Would you rather deny your feelings and stay beside your friend, or risk your friendship to embrace the person you have fallen for?" Most would take the love over the friendship.
Well after me and him got to know each other (we lived on the same street) she moved across the street from him directly across the street.
So then we all became friends.. So 2 years after that me and him dated. And I found out from my so called best friend that he was cheating on me with her. So I was like there I'm done, and I broke up with him. They continued going out until last feb. Then he asked me out again. So we dated for like a month and then I realized why would I go out with some one who cheated on me?
So the same day I broke up with him she asks him out! What Kinda "friend" is that!! :( It depends I guess. like when did u guys break up? is she just a skank and wants to make you jealous? Did she like him secretly maybe before you dated him? Is he really that great to even care? I'm sure it hurts, but what can you do? If your still friends with this girl, then how is she to know its bothering you so much?
Or did you confront her. I don't know toots, maybe you should just go find someone better :) For whom ever wrote your Ex is "fair game"? I question first if that is a female who said that and second if so and most likely if they have done the same thing as you speak of.
Secondly you already know the answer to the question you pose, or you would not be sitting on here tearey eyed and deeply hurt posing it. There are just things in life that people that were raised right and those with integrity know how to react to and or not react to and how to conduct themselfs.
As a rule and common sense I would and never have dated/slept with or would that of a significant other of a aquaintance or let alone "Friend"! Nor a married man/seperated or involved. Too many people use the word "FRIEND" quite loosely. Also integrity aside, I do not like sloppy seconds. That is also why I am very careful in whom I call a friend, I would rather have one real and true friend than five or ten aquaintances that are and never will be a friend.
I am assuming you told her private details of your realationship? And all along they were attracted to oneanother? Assuming that nothing had occured with them during your relationship? Regardless, it is common sense that no one would truly be comfortable with that. Like if a clerk gives you too much money back for change? Some would say, well it was his mistake, heck yeah take it! Well there is such a thing as Karma.
best my best friend dating my ex who i still love - My best friend is dating my ex who I still love 💔
Well my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago right and I was crying my heart out. I cried almost all day and my best friend knew. My friend had told me that my ex like my best friend and I was like ok I don't care. And she said that my best friend might date him and to watch out. I defended my best friend right in her face and said "hell naw she wouldn't do that stop saying that shit" and ended the conversation.
Well yesterday I found out they we're dating. First I saw my ex name on her bio on Instagram, they kept texting non stop all day, she put "him❤️" for her name on kik and my other friend tells me their dating because she hooked them up!! So now I'm really depressed and I got off my phone for a whole week, I'm a teenager so that's like a really big thing lol, and well I just don't know what to do cuz I feel everyone just betrayed me.
My ex betrayed me and asked out my BEST FRIEND one day after we break up and he leaves me heartbroken, my best friend for saying yes to him even when she knows how much I love him, and my other friend for hooking them up when she knows I love him.
WHAT DO I DO IM REALLY DEPRESSED CUZ I FEEL NO ONE CARES ABOUT MY FEELINGS ANYMORE HELP PLZ The same happened to me a while ago sweetie, my girlfriend and I broke up on bad terms and now she is in a seriously relationship with my best friend but after a whole it sinks in you get used to them and feelings fade away I see her a lot now when I go to my friends house and we have a great laugh we still care for each other but not in that way there is no feelings anymore and to be honest it wa the best thing that happened to us because everything is great now we just look back and laugh honestly take your mind off of them and start talking to other boys and forget about them, it took me 2 months too fully get over her now we are great friends all of us together are the best so chin up and move on speak to new people and have fun.
4 shares “What do you care?” would be the first logical question when thinking about this topic. And really, what do I care? It’s not like there was anything between the two of them while we were dating… or was there?
Well, yes, the truth is that I have no right to be hurting, but what does the truth have to do with anything? Just because I shouldn’t be feeling something, it doesn’t mean that I’ll stop feeling it. Yes, he is my EX, and the emotions should be cooling off by now, and they were, but you never know the right equation for how to feel about your ex.
No one has studied this important life question yet. Could it be that I’m hurting now because somebody else has something that was mine, or does it hurt me this much because that somebody is so close to me?
… …WAS SO CLOSE to me*; excuse my typo. You know what hurts even more? The fact that my best friend is trying to stay in my life and I just don’t feel like I can handle it. We’re supposed to tell each other everything and advise each other when we’re in doubt. How can she expect such a thing from me? Yes, I’d be her best advisor because she’s dating somebody that I used to date and somebody I know so much, but it feels so wrong.
It feels like I’m discovering our deepest secrets, the ones that should be held only between him and me. It’s like having a third VERY EXPERIENCED person with you in the relationship, just that now I am no longer sure who the third person is.
When she starts speaking about their relationship, it’s like she is retelling my story. And it hurts, so f***ing much! I want my story with him to be lived only once by the two of us: ME and HIM. Anybody else is welcome to read it, but for God’s sake, nobody can relive it.
It is really shitty to build your happiness on someone else’s misery. I might even explain ‘why’ to you later. It is so wrong on so many levels, sooo many levels. This was one-too-many experiences in my life. .
Or at least I wish I was. But as an intellectual human being, I perceive this as a lesson. And boy, it’s a lesson I’ll remember forever. This is what I’ve learned: • I ‘ve Learned That Trust Shouldn’t Be Given So Easily. How could I have known what the final result would be? Both of them were very close to me, and I never saw this coming. I believed that they were sent from God to make me happy. Boy, it was quite a shipment and delivery if I may say so.
Introducing my boyfriend to my best friend was very stupid. Do you know what was even more stupid? Going out together, you know the three of us. Giving her the chance to get to know him so well, to know his weaknesses, his flaws and his good sides. You never really know when somebody is watching you and desiring the things you have in life. I should’ve been smarter and more attentive, and not a day passes by that I don’t question myself.
How could I trust HER so blindly? How could I have trusted HIM so blindly? • I’ve Learned That It Is Never, Ever, OK To Date Your Best Friend’s EX. NO, it is not OK to do it, under any circumstances! What do you hope to gain? What do you hope to get out of it? Well, I can tell you, you can lose much more than you can gain.
I’d never do it because during the whole time of the relationship, I’d ask myself, “Does he see her when he looks at me?” I’d ask myself, “How is she feeling?” and “Can I be happy when I know I’ve made my best friend unhappy?” There are 7 billion people in this world, and if we consider that half of them are male, she could’ve chosen between 3.5 billion other guys, but nooo, she had to have someone that was mine.
There is no excuse. That shit “ love just happened and blah blah blah” is ridiculous. It is a tale for small children.
I don’t buy it. • Who To Choose, My Ex or My Best Friend? If the situation was vice versa, I wouldn’t choose him. If I were her, I’d never accept the love that once belonged to my best friend. Just think about it, who was there longer? It was us girls.
Who will stay there longer? Well, not the EX of course. At the end, he’s just an EX and for a reason. In the world of fake friendships, one should be happy to find a true friend and a true friend for life. If the situation was different, I would’ve chosen her. I would’ve never thought of him in such a way, because the moment a guy starts to fancy my best friend, he remains forbidden fruit for me till the end of my life.
But not all of us have the same principles in life nor do same lessons teach us the same stuff. At the end, this is what I’m left with: I’m forever left with the question if there was anything between them while the two of us were dating. Yes, you may say that it all started after our relationship ended, but that’s just crap!
The two of them met thanks to me. So, it must be that it started that day when they shook hands in front of me. I’m left with wondering if she is better than me. Day and night I can’t stop thinking about it. What does she have that I didn’t have? How could he have chosen her since the two of us are so similar? I keep thinking that he liked her even back when the two of us were dating and that he only waited for us to break up out of respect towards me.
I am left with the fear that I pushed him into her hands. I kept bringing her to dates with us. We went to the movies together, on road trips, and she was always hooking up with somebody else. She was fun because she was single and didn’t need to respect anybody but herself (not that she did that a lot). God, when I rewind the film, even I’d fall for such a girl. I told you that it is really shitty to build your happiness on someone else’s misery.
Just know that karma is a bitch who waits on the corner for you to pick her up, and don’t worry, you don’t have to stop and invite her for a ride. She’ll jump right in on her own. Well, when karma hits these two, they will no longer have me. They are now friendless and “exless”. I do wish them only the best from the bottom of my heart, but I was their best, and they lost me.
I Want to Date My Bestfriend's EX