When The One You Love Is Already Dating Someone Else (It’s Still Possible To Get Back Together): = = =Relevant for: speaking to an ex who is with someone else ; ways to speak to an ex who is with someone else ; how to talk to an ex who is with someone else ; my ex is with someone else ; my ex is with someone new. I say about because in between that time we kinda dated hung out everyday and hooked up a lot. She moved away to pursue her masters degree and we tried long distance. A few months in she called it off, then we would consistently talk on the phone everyday or every other day My ex is talking to someone new but still have her facebook profile single stutus also she has my pictures on there . what dose that means please help me. Dreamy Head.
It means he is not to be trusted. Put yourself in the new girls shoes. Tell your ex it isn’t appropriate to be texting you while he has a new girl.
Let him know you are not going to be a party to it. Being honest and straight forward is the best thing to do. You may be flattered by the contact, but seriously why would you ever trust a guy who does this. Tell him to stop and then move on with your life. You can ignore them if you are having second thoughts because of it. And people do it for varied reasons like out of boredom or irrational/ emotional impulses or just platonic friendship.
Please consider the fact that if a person wants to be with you, he/she would be with you no matter what. Don’t even bother about the reasons of his texting
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Today we are going to be encountering your worst fear. Having your ex move on to someone else in front of your eyes. Specifically we are going to be taking a look at the signs that you can keep an eye out for if this fate has transpired.
Now, if you don’t know how I roll then you are in for a treat. Any time I write an article like this I like to go above and beyond by providing unique studies and experiences to back up my theories.
In this case, I am going to draw from personal experience to explain some of these signs to you. Ladies and gentlemen, without further ado I present the five signs that your ex is dating someone else. 5 Signs That Your Ex Is Probably Dating Someone Else Before I start listing the signs I do want to point out that I am not going to limit these signs to your ex having to be in an actual relationship with someone new.
I think if they have a crush on someone else these signs can be present as well. And it’s kind of the same heartbreaking outcome that you don’t want to occur to you. As I stated above, there are five big signs that you need to pay attention to.
• Their Social Media Behavior Changes • You Hear About It From Mutual Friends • They Don’t Respond To Your Attempts Of Communication • The Pendulum Swing Occurs More Frequently • They Tell You Specifically They Can’t Talk To You Anymore Let’s peel back the layers and explain what to expect with these five signs.
Sign #1: Your Exes Social Media Behavior Changes I’ve been off the market for a long time now. Coming up on four years now. Wow, time flies! Anyways, one of the most drastic changes I noticed that occurred when I got into a relationship with my wife was how differently I treated social media.
I was very conscious of the fact that even the most seemingly insignificant thing like commenting on someones photo on Facebook can be taken out of context and create problems for you, We live in the age of social media whether you like it or not where our every action is scrutinized. Your ex isn’t blind to that fact. Generally what I tell to keep an eye out for are anything that interrupts the pattern on your exes social media profile.
For example, let’s pretend that after your breakup with your ex they still kept in touch with you by liking, commenting or even personal messaging you on Facebook. One day that behavior completely changes. The likes stop. The comments are the next to go. And you don’t even get a response when you reach out to your ex in personal messages.
What is going on? It could be that they are literally gearing up for attracting someone else and they don’t want to have any baggage following them around.
Sign #2: You Hear About It From Mutual Friends Are you familiar with the concept of an asterisk in baseball? Baseball is very protective of its records. Specifically the home run record. In fact, if you look online you can find multiple cases where home run records were branded with an asterisk essentially saying that this player cheated and took steroids to achieve this record. I’d like to place an asterisk on this sign because you always need to be careful of what you hear from mutual friends.
Have you ever played a game of telephone? The game is really easy. You basically get a bunch of people to stand in a line and then on one end of the line you share a message and you have the message passed down the line to see if it’s the same as when it was initially given, In almost all the cases I’ve ever played I found that the message was completely different by the time that it went down the entire line.
The game is meant to highlight how people process information differently. And how those subtle changes in the processing can completely change fact into fiction. This is kind of how I view listening to other people about exes.
In most cases mutual friends will be on your side but how they process your ex “dating” might be completely made up. Maybe they just saw your ex with a friend and assumed they were dating. Always take what your mutual friends say with a grain of salt. I’m not saying they will lie. I’m just saying that it’s important for you not to overreact. Sign #3: Your Ex Doesn’t Respond To Any Of Your Attempts To Communicate Personal story time!
When I started my college experience I falsely believed that dating wasn’t a numbers game. It totally is. That sounds completely unromantic but I’ve found it to be true. What I’d end up doing was zone in on one specific girl I’d have a crush on and put everything I’d have into getting her to date me. Sometimes I’d get the date and sometimes I wouldn’t. But inevitably I’d always find something wrong with the person or they’d find something wrong with me.
The problem was that I’d average maybe 1 girl I’d find worthy a year and the end result was that I’d be alone. If my math was right I was single for five years before I met my wife. What changed? Well, around year four I started to look at dating as a numbers game. In other words, the more girls I met the more chances I’d have to run them through my own internal processes to see if they were worthy.
I believe that when I met my soon to be wife I was talking to three other girls. Talking to my wife was revolutionary. I hadn’t felt that way about anyone before. In fact, she had such a strong pull on me that I decided to refine my efforts and only focus on her.
In other words, I stopped talking to every other potential prospect. I’d do this one of two ways, • By either ignoring them • Or by blocking them The blocking case was special and I’ll tell you about that story in a moment. Ignoring the others was really interesting because you’d get all kinds of texts asking you where you went and whats happening. I’d just ghost them because if I felt strongly about my wife to the point I didn’t want to talk to anyone else then I knew I’d never develop feelings for them.
What’s the point of being friends with someone when you weren’t looking for a friend in the first place? Sign #4: The Pendulum Swings More Frequently Most people aren’t like me. Most are ok with remaining friends with their past lovers.
I think it’s just asking for trouble. I’ll never forget the day my best friend admitted to me that he slept with a girl who was currently dating someone. I didn’t criticize or scold him for being bad. If anything, that’s on the girl for cheating on her boyfriend. No, I was actually fascinated by what he told me next. Man, we were at this gathering together and her boyfriend was there.
It was so strange. All I could think about was the fact that I fu$ked this girl and her boyfriend was right there. He told me that he noticed something interesting. The girl was super short with her boyfriend.
Like she would swing from one end of the spectrum of emotions to the other. One minute she would be scolding him in front of everyone and the other she would be making out with him in the corner. She was doing this for my friends benefit of course. Here’s the thing though, I’ve seen this pendulum swing of behavior a lot.
It’s something worth keeping an eye on if you are worried your ex has moved on to someone else. Sign #5: Your Ex Tells You They Can’t Talk To You Anymore Remember I told you in an example above that there was one person I flat out blocked when I first met my wife.
Here’s how that went down. Initially I just ignored all three of the girls I was talking to. I figured they’d get the hint but this one just wouldn’t quit bothering me. Eventually I got annoyed enough that she wasn’t getting the hint so I flat out told her. As you can imagine this didn’t go over very well as she berated me for being a “poor friend” and that just because I was “talking to someone” didn’t mean I couldn’t still talk to her.
But to me the risk wasn’t worth what little reward there would be. Think of all the things that could go wrong if my wife, who had no clue what I was like yet would think if she thought I was talking to all kinds of girls at the same time as her.
It would look really bad. I pride myself on being extremely loyal. I’m a one woman kind of man. I was then and I am now. You may not agree with how I handled the situation but I am kind of proud of it because it goes to show that I knew even probably before my wife knew that I was going to fall in love. In the end I blocked the loose cannon and moved on with my life.
I tell you this story not to dishearten you but to give you insight into the mind of someone when there is technically “someone else.” These are the types of behaviors you can expect to receive from your ex if there is someone they are interested in.
Hi Natasha, Came across this post- just want to tell you I know how it is to be alone in a foreign country, and I know how difficult it is having to be relied on when you yourself is collapsing.
But your child needs you. Doesn’t matter what the guy said or did, you have to survive first. I know it is hard but you have to pick up the pieces. Allow yourself a moment of grief, then look forward and keep on going.
Good luck! • Hi chris My ex has admitted that he has someone. I tried the nc rule twice. The first time he did contact me 1 week and a half and the second time i managed 2 weeks.
He has no social media accounts. Whatsapp is the only form of contact. Even tho we had not contact he constantly looked at my whatsapp status. We have a 5 month old baby and we are in different countries. I have been needing documents from him for our baby which is why i broke the nc rule but he was quite cold and it just pushed me to me losing self control.
He has kept repeating that he has moved on and i must do the same. We were engaged we both wanted this baby My “family” did interfere and they are partly the reason we are in different countries.
After all was said he blocked me and the next day he has unblocked me. I dont know how to read him. I am complety alone with our baby i have no support or friends.
I am stuck where i am because of visa issues. I am completely devestated that all the promises he made and how much he said he loved me that he would move on so easily.
What advice could you give. I honestly feel that my situation is completely hopeless. He says he loves this baby and wants to be part of her life but we cant be together. How can he be so utterly shut down and have no consideration for the simple fact he made me believe he would always be there for me no matter what and not even think about the fact i am with our baby 24/7 with alot people making my life more difficult.
My ex broke up with me 5 months ago and a month later he started dating again. I was devastated, confused, hurt, angry because I still loved him. We’ve been together for 3 years. It wasn’t an easy 3 year relationship..We had fights and disagreements but we got it over.
I mean really nthere’s no perfect relationship. It broke my heart even more to see him dating another girl. Like those 3 years meant nothing to me, like he never cared or still had feelings for me. When I asked him whether he is dating again, he keeps denying it.
Until one day one my way home, I saw him waiting for her outside her work place. He completely ignored and kept giving me ugly facials.2 days ago I called him and told him off over the phone. He then accused me of dating a pilot guy which was the reason why he didn’t want to tell me about his new girlfriend. That was such an immature move.
Told him never to contact me again. It’s been 2 nights now he’s still calling me but I never once answered his call. Despite the fact that he’s dating another. I don’t want to answer his call cause who knows he might just call me to crush my ego or maybe he wants to get back again….I don’t know I’m really confused.
Please I really need advice. Do not answer his calls. He has a new girlfriend and is not getting back with you. Sounds like it’s time to go no contact for a few months to clear your head of all this and heal. I know this is not an easy thing to do but, its for the best. One of my ex boyfriends would do such things and it crushed me to see him dating someone else but, when I finally stepped away and lived my life without him around,I found peace.
I am sorry you are hurting. I do not understand this after breakup relationship you two have….WHAT? It makes no sense and is only painful…you are not friends…you are bitter towards each other. STOP – think what you are doing….do not contact him…block him from contacting you. Grieve and then move forward…leave the past in the past. If he really wanted to tell you he wanted to get back with you he would start with a text or an email if you ignore his calls.
He wants to use his voice to convince you and to turn on the charm – very dangerous. Once you break up he can date 3 the next day so get past that. He is single so are you. If he wants a chance he can think of a solution. When a man really wants you, nothing stops him Hello May I’ve deactivated all accounts on social media so there’s no way he can send me an email.
He hasnt texted he’s just been calling like 20+ calls but I ignored them all. I texted him to leave me alone and go bother his girlfriend but he keeps calling. Not even a single text. He’s not single. He’s dating another girl. She posted up a photo of them on Facebook.
Made it official. This is all messing me up Hi Grace. Its an interesting phenomena that when you ignore them they act crazy, but if a lady does it to them they are considered “crazy”. She’s a rebound as its rather normal thing someone to fill the void with another but eventually as their head becomes clearer they realize they weren’t honest with themselves about the reasons for dating (filling a void) and not being in he right mental state of mind.
You still have his heart as it takes quite awhile to close that chapter and be able to start a new one with someone else. He’s going through the “what do I want” phase where he’s missing you but not wanting to be with you either, if that makes sense. This can last for quite awhile depending upon the length of the relationship and he’s going through a lot of inner turmoil no differently than you are. He obviously wants to talk so maybe hear him out and if he goes negative then hang up and block all further attempts.
Hello Lane, Thank you for your reply. Yes I also have the same thought that she’s just a rebound and his in a somewhat confused phase. I texted him earlier telling him to not text or call me for I want closure and for him to take heed of what I want. This is like my second text of the same sentence to him but he just ignored it and kept calling me. He calls me at odd hours in the night. Left 20+ missed calls and not a single text. I will hear him out as you suggested and of things go out of hand I’ll hang up and block him.
Update: He didn’t call me after I sent him the text for him to not text me or call me cause I wanted closure. Unless he had something important to say, he’d call and I’ll hear out. But he hasn’t made contact with me after that txt. what do you think? Did he take my txt into heart ? or is he busy with work at the moment or maybe he’s sleeping with his new girlfriend? :( Please someone advice I’m devastated My x boyfriend moved on in 2months.
We were together for 10 years. Nc for months , then on and off contact . The last time we spoke i asked him if he was happy with this woman .
He said satified ,but happiest when he was with me . I asked do you love her , he said yes . But he still loves me and thinks about me all the time . So i am very confused i still love him but i am haveing a hard time moveing on . His last words was i love you you ya know . I said ok goodbye . Please give me your input ,i am so confused . I really beluve he does love me . But it just didn’t work out and it’s hard to let go after a 10 year relationship. I have a friend who used to get calls/texts from her ex even though he was dating another girl.
They used to increase when he and the girl were on a break (used to happen often as they fought a lot). I told her why did she want all the drama in her life and why couldn’t she just block him. So she did and even after blocking him, he found a way to contact her. So then she did the only thing she could think of – she messaged his gf and asked her to ask him to stop contacting her as she is tired of telling him the same thing and inspite of being blocked he still found a way to contact her.
Now both of them have blocked her and her life is drama free …. blissful!! The reason why I told you this is that it doesn’t matter why he is calling you or texting you or what have you. The fact is that he is no longer your bf and dating someone else (irrespective of whether she is a rebound or not). YOU GUYS ARE NOT TOGETHER. And unless and until you are truly enjoying the drama it brings into your life … cut him out and block him.
Be thankful that he listened to you and stopped contacting you. Now you can start the painful journey of healing from your relationship. Firstly, I would guess he was calling you because he wanted to make a closure, to end things nicely. And not because he wanted you back together. 5 months is enough to get over someone. And secondly, this: “He didn’t call me after I sent him the text for him to not text me or call me cause I wanted closure.
Unless he had something important to say, he’d call and I’ll hear out. But he hasn’t made contact with me after that txt.” … is really weird. You texted him to not call you and now you are surprised that he is not calling you.
Makes no sense. I suppose you wanted him to beg more. You could easily call him, ask him what is up, listen to him, and you both would go separate ways. I think that would be more adult in your situation. Aw hes all messed up and doesn’t know what he wants. Mr right does not let you go and start dating someone else, you deserve better than this believe me.
Be strong and do your best to get over this. Focus on you and not him.. Don’t try and work out what hes doing and why, hes maybe not even sure himself. Don’t stalk him on social media, call a friend if you get the urge to do this. This is not easy but in time the pain will diminish. No contact really does help.
Do your best to be good to yourself, get a makeover, buy new shoes, try something new at the gym or exercise class.
Anything that makes you feel better. He probably will get in touch soon and maybe you should just talk to him and get the closure but do not accept any nonsense, no one is forcing him to date another girl. Be clear if he chooses to do this its unacceptable behaviour. Good luck. x For all those whose exs are contacting them while They dating another person PLEASE READ ARTICLES ON NARCISSISTS!!
You all Will have your questions answered. Narcisissts never leave their past girlfriends when they dating another ! They keep their ex wives or girlfriends as their supplies so when thye gets bored with one they know they can Charm their way back into your hearts !
Trust me I was involved with one. What I read here in this forum about your partners ,I have been through same situations and horror ! Once again I do encourage you to read as much info about narcissists and narcissism victim syndrome ! Also Google “let me reach !” This site was Created by a woman (forgot her name )who was involved with a narcisssit !you’ll be amazed that her experiences are very much similar !
I kicked my narcissist guy out the Door and locked it for good! I’m dealing with a narcissist, he is with a girfriend but keeps harrassing me. We where together 10 years. He told me he was done with me, he did not feel the same way he loved me but not with the same intensity then right away started dating the new woman.
He doesn’t leave me alone hit keeps come talk to me for no reason and I don’t want to hear from him anymore. He is torturing me. He is definitely a narcissist. My goodness this is my exact experience right now.
After dating my ex for 4 years, he left me for a co-worker he had known for 3 weeks. Cheated, lied, emotionally and physically abused me..the whole works. That was 2 months ago. Since then he has contacted me to try an get back together, have sex, be best friends, have a beer, go to the cinemas, go clubbing….you name it.
While all the time he is still playing happy families with his new girl. The only way I felt clarity and gained some control was by blocking him off everything. Unfortunately, he still found a loop hole and contacted me via Whatsapp.
I replied telling him to leave me alone for good and then blocked him there. I am a little concerned he will appear at my apartment. But Im hoping he isnt that crazy. Whats worse is he blames me for the breakup. Apparently, hes a nice guy and I am a manipulative, deceitful ex who has painted him out to be a monster. You need to cut them off at the source. These narcissists need a source, whether its positive or negative, it doesnt matter to them.
The silence absolutely kills them. They have no idea where to turn which means they are faced to look inwards and thats a frightening place for them to look. If they are lucky, they will have a constant supply of women ready to distract them from themselves. Dont look for these people. Dont check his social media, or the new girls. Dont ask questions. Dont speak to mutual friends about them. I promise, this will help you heal. My boyfriend broke up with me a year ago and started dating someone new right away.
We kept up a phone relationship for months. He makes no attempts to see me yet he talks with me about getting back together all the time. He tells me he loves me and misses me.
He calls me and wants to know everything about my life. He’s on my FB page all the time he says, talks about what he sees, but never posts. I found out he took his new gf out on New Years Eve to a 5 star hotel where he took me.
I was devastated. I left messages and vented, heart broken but he never returned my calls or emails. Three months later he comes to my house when he knew I was as away and left a BlueRay disc of a play I was in under the doormat he obtained from production.
(He came to the play but didn’t see me after). He called ten days later acting as if nothing happened about our falling out over NYE. . He talks to me sweet, then discusses getting back together again and talking about his reservations knowing I still love him and would want him back.
Days later he took his new gf on an expensive vacation and to meet her family obviously planned well ahead. Why did he call me out of the blue months later after I found out about NYE and was so hurt? I told him I don’t want to be just phone friends and that we need to see each other in person instead of keeping me for hours on the phone.
I still love him, he calls, but doesn’t make an effort to see me citing he’s afraid he’ll either disappoint himself or disappoint me. What does he want from me? Why is he acting this way? Gina stop letting him play with your emotions. If he wanted to be with you, he would. It’s as simple as that. He’s keeping you as a backup in case it doesn’t work out with his new girlfriend. He wants to make sure you’re still hooked on him and available if he should want you in the future.
You’re worth far more than that. You’ll never get over him while you keep him in your life and you allow yourself to hope he’ll want you back. Isn’t a year enough time to realise that’s not going to happen?
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