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While scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I came across a link to a Gawker article that one of my friends reposted. In an essay entitled "," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women? Black women have told me it's because I'm a sellout. The white men who can get past the mental anguish of my black penis tarnishing "their" women think I'm making some latent admission that their race has the most attractive women...
Most people have it wrong. I'm not a "black man" who "dates white women." I'm a person. I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved. The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on...
Although I am a black woman in an interracial relationship, I only gave Baker's piece a cursory glance at first. In the midst of a full news feed, it just seemed like more noise.
In fact, I completely forgot about it until a few responses started to pop up. It was Britni Danielle’s "" piece for Clutch magazine that caused me to go back and reevaluate.
I couldn't stop repeating the first part of the Clutch headline over and over again in my head. Nobody cares. Nobody cares. Lots of people in this country would like to believe that race relations are swell, racism is dead, and everyone is happy.
Some like to think, "It's 2014. We have a black president. Slavery is over. What else is there to complain about?" A lot of people aren't bothered by interracial relationships, but, on the flip side, many people still are.
According to a 2013 Gallup poll, 96 percent of blacks and 84 percent of whites . But what about that 4 percent of blacks and 16 percent of whites? Image: Gallup There's a belief among some members of racial groups that one who dates outside of that race is disloyal, self-loathing, or has, for lack of a better word, been brainwashed.
It's time to talk about that. in a piece at Uptown magazine, we need to promote an honest discussion about interracial relationships. We need to stop pretending people don’t care. It's hard to face the truth that educated and talented women like MacArthur Fellow towards black men who date white women. She wrote in a Huffington Post blog late last year: It is the same sharp tug of disappointment that gets me every time I see a black man with a white woman on his arm.
Try as I might to suppress the reaction, I experience black men's choice of white women as a personal rejection of the group in which I am a part, of African American women as a whole, who have always been devalued in this society.
When I first read Miles' opinions, I was surprised, until I looked into the comments section and saw readers seriously advocating for solely dating within one's race.
We are all members of this collective community living on Earth, and we all need to start being honest with ourselves. What does it mean to be uncomfortable about interracial dating in 2014? What are the causes of this discomfort? Why are so many people advocating a "stay with your own race" mentality? As a young woman of color, I can attest to the fact that many people in this world feel it is their duty — no, their God-given right — to decide what is best for me, and especially whom is best for me to date.
For instance, I felt the need to defend my relationships to my mother who, like Baker’s mother, wondered when her daughter would bring home someone who looked more Michael B.
Jordan then Ryan Gosling. Frazer Harrison/Getty Images Entertainment/Getty Images My mother will resent me for saying this, but I know there is a part of her that wanted to see me settle down with someone black, someone who looked like me.
After five years of my boyfriend and I dating on and off, I think my mom has come to love him almost as much as I do. It didn’t seem to matter anymore what he looked like. Still, it was always funny that my mother questioned why I kept dating white guys, especially because I was raised as one of only few people of color in my community.
I grew up in the predominantly white suburbs of upstate New York. I went to a predominantly white high school where I was one of maybe five black kids. I grew up thinking that because I looked different, I somehow wasn't good enough. When you look at the role models of my youth, the people and products the media put forth and said, “This is beauty personified,” you’ll notice a distinct theme: Barbie, Britney Spears, Polly Pocket, Sailor Moon, Mandy Moore, Mary Kate and Ashley — all white.
I was fully submerged, I mean genuinely immersed, in a culture where people like me weren’t valued as beautiful, so much so that I remember wishing the thick, coarse hair on my American Girl doll, , was straighter and “prettier,” like that of my other dolls.
After years and years of internalizing the beauty standard promoted all around me, I headed off to college with a low self-esteem and essentially no sense of self-worth. I went out to a frat party with my roommate on our first night.
I was in a new city and in a completely new situation. I expected things to be similar to the way they were in high school. I had dated a few guys before, all assholes, and I didn’t think many people would show interest in me. I looked down at my fingertips, stained deep mocha from my foundation, and felt self-conscious. But then something happened: people started talking to me, flirting even. Once I escaped the small, isolated microcosm of Upstate New York, I met people who didn't think of me just based off of my skin color.
I met my current boyfriend the next night, and he we are, still together five years later. Still, I would never ever say that being in an interracial relationship has been easy. I was fully aware that he had blond hair and blue eyes when I met him, obviously, but I didn't really understand what that meant until years later.
One of the most difficult parts about being in an interracial relationship is the fact that I started to question things I never I questioned before. I started thinking about the media and asking myself what qualities I was actually attracted to in a man, specifically my boyfriend, versus what qualities I'd been taught to find attractive. Part of me used to envy how soft, straight, and blond his hair was. One of my favorite things to do was to play with his hair.
He would lie with his head in my lap, and I would run my fingers through the blond strands. It was so effortless to do that, to just run my fingers through his hair.
When I did that to my hair, my hand got stuck a quarter of the way through. Later, though, his hair color and eye color began to feel less important to me.
They became superficial and meaningless, because the man I had fallen in love with would be the same person regardless of what color his hair and eyes were. I couldn't deny that those characteristics had been among those that drew me to him, but they were no longer among the things that most attracted me to him. If he put in brown contacts and dyed his hair black tomorrow, I would love him just as much as the day I met him. As I think happens in most relationships, the physical attributes that initially attracted me to him aren't as important anymore.
He's a whole, round, complete person. We have different outlooks on life. Sometimes he doesn't fully understand where I'm coming from or the way I approach an argument as someone who hasn't experienced racism in the same way. And yet, one of the things I love is the fact that we are so different, that we've lived completely different lives, but we still have so much in common. Our fundamental beliefs, our core ideals, are the same, and that is key in any relationship.
Being in this relationship has taught me that there's no separating the physical characteristics you genuinely desire from those you were taught to desire, and that I don't need to apologize for what I'm drawn to. When it comes to who I’m attracted to and who I decide to become involved with, it’s nobody’s business but my own.
I think it's important to examine for myself why certain traits appeal to me, as a way of understanding my own development as a person of color. I feel no guilt about why I feel the way that I feel about certain people.
Now, when people come up to me and teasingly ask if I date just white guys, or if I don't date black guys, it doesn't really bother me.
What? You're too good for black guys? Is that it? I don't let those questions influence me or my feelings towards my relationships.
People who try to defend their attractions and relationships in the face of this idea often argue that love is blind. I hear this cliché a lot. Love is blind. As someone who has dated mostly people of a different race, I can assure you love is not blind.
Love is informed by the media, by feelings we are taught to feel from our childhood on, and by our everyday experiences. Even if I was dating a black man, love still wouldn't be blind. The actual reality of being in an interracial relationship is that it's easy when it's just the two of you, but it sure is hard when everybody else starts getting involved. To circle back to the important point that Lincoln Blades made, we need to start a dialogue about the things that make us most uncomfortable.
Where I live, I don't experience much persecution for my relationship anymore because the state and area is fairly liberal. Sometimes I forget about the way that things are in other parts of the country, or the world.
We still have a long way to go. Ernest Baker's piece helps to remind us all that some things, even things that aren't as socially taboo as they used to be, are still taboo to some.
Take a look in the comments section of Baker's piece, and you'll see that people are very passionate about interracial relationships and racial issues. I tell my story not because I felt compelled to explain myself or to justify but to promote a discussion. Some people may never understand, and it isn't my job or the job of anyone else in an interracial relationship to force our opinions down their throat, or to fight them.
It is our responsibility, however, to be true to ourselves and the ones we love. One response in the comment section on Tiya Miles' piece eloquently sums up what debates about interracial dating often miss:
best white girl dating a black man romance books - What are some good black man/white woman romance novels/movies?
Interracial romances do more than just tease and titillate – they also allow us to cross barriers and society-imposed divides to explore and discover what could be and should be. Stories of love, passion, betrayal, revenge, protection, envy and jealousy abound and it is up to the hero and heroine to discover their inner strength and allow the ties that bind them to find love and keep it… or lose it. Here are the 10 best interracial romance books and ebooks that explore and expose the complexities of life and love in multi-color.
All of them feature black women and white men, or BWWM for short. Have a read of them all and let me know which is your favorite. Important Update For an updated list of the best BWWM interracial romance books out, . This is a complete and always updated list. 10. Braver (Runaway) is the second installment in the ‘Runaway’ series by Lexie Ray. Fans of the series have enjoyed the singular adventure of the women that Ray has brought to life, namely the ladies of Mama’s nightclub.
Jasmine took the lead in ‘Stronger’, the first installment. This time around, it is her roommate Cocoa’s turn. Braver is a story of survival, of a woman who made questionable choices to get by.
Although her desperation is short-lived and she does manage to find an opportunity to try to get her life back together, Cocoa is haunted by her past, embarrassed for herself, always struggling with the possibility that it will somehow prevent her from finding true love. Will the handsome and successful Liam Henry change all that? Has Cocoa finally discovered her true passion?
More importantly, is the undeniable attraction between them strong enough to blossom into true love? Cocoa would like to believe so, until Liam’s brother enters the picture and Cocoa has to accept the fact that her past has caught up to her. Will Liam see through the woman she pretends to be and find the woman she really is?
Is there room for her in his life? 9. Burned By Passion This is a short read but what it lacks in length, it more than makes up for in its love scenes. It is the story of Kira Taylor, a secretary who takes one look at the picture of her boss’ son Blake and falls in love.
When he materializes in front of her, it would have been a dream come true but just like all great stories of love and passion, there are obstacles in the way.
First, Kira is loyal to her brilliant boss and she does not appreciate how Blake treats his father. Second, Kira is in a relationship. Can she overcome her initial dislike of Blake in order to explore the new feelings that stir her soul? Can she let go of her relationship in favor of someone she has not known for long?
Should she? is an unabashed look at how strong emotions can often push judgment out of the way. In Kira’s case, she has struggles to overcome, both personal and social. How she does it and why makes this book an excellent read. Burned by Passion is Dez Burke’s newest offering. 8. Her Venice Affair (The Albury Affairs) is about taking chances and grabbing life’s little moments to make the most of them. In Riana’s case, making a decision that is so out of character changes her life, allowing her to enjoy the little surprises along the way.
Riana starts off as a good girl with a level head. Suddenly left alone and betrayed by the man she thought she loved, she makes a split second decision to change her ways and take her chance on an offer made by the handsome Allan Sinclair to spend two weeks in Venice with him. What might seem like a win-win offer is not without a catch, however.
Like Riana, Allan is nursing a heartache of his own. Unknown to them both, his decision to bring her to the romantic city of Venice for business may put things he holds sacred in jeopardy and may just cost Riana her life. This book is about surprises that await you when you take a chance. 7. Forty Weeks (The Langley Brothers) Smart, ambitious and beautiful, Kayla knows what she wants and has her future plotted and planned.
When she meets James, the attraction is undeniable and so she embarks on a beautiful affair, even if they have very different goals. Kayla, after all, wants to finish college and embark on a rewarding career.
James, on the other hand, prefers to party. They both know that while they want to be together, the spark cannot last… or can it? explores the complications that occur in relationships when a disparity in lifestyle and goals gets in the way.
Throw in an unplanned pregnancy and the complexity becomes a real threat to a perfectly passionate affair. This is an interracial romance with a twist, the kind that could potentially ruin a love that is just about to blossom or one that could open up a door to a wonderful future as partners.
6. Sergei (Her Russian Protector) Danger can be irresistible and this story once again proves that to be true. A family tragedy has turned Bianca Bradshaw into a woman wary of men with less than a clean record. However, when trouble follows her, the tall, handsome comes to her aid, promising to protect her and be there for her.
Sergei seems like a caring man, a man who will sacrifice a lot for Bianca just to make sure she is safe. He is also the most stunningly beautiful man she has ever laid her eyes on but her attraction is complicated by his job as a mob enforcer of a criminal boss.
Sergei is the fifth installment in Roxie Rivera’s ‘Her Russian Protector’ series. It explores the dark underworld of the Russian mob, and the men and women who are caught in it. It also offers a wonderful take on loyalty, family ties and ultimately, love and what it takes to attain it. Now, before we go any further, our friends over at Saucy Romance Books have an updated list of the .
Be sure to check that out if you want the latest and best interracial romance novels. 5. No Regrets (A Tale of Three Hearts) is the last of the series created by Sienna Mynx. The colorful saga of Daisy and Aiden Keane continues here and the deceit, lust, jealousy and betrayal that hounded them will finally be resolved. Or will they? Aiden harbors a secret that could destroy Daisy’s trust and faith in him forever but he is Aiden Keane.
His success did not come from being a passive observer. He is a doer and every decisive action he makes from here on just might bring much-deserved peace and happiness with the woman he loves, or it could take Daisy away from him. 4. The Blake Legacy (The Blake Boys) Now happily settled with a successful husband, a beautiful baby and a career that is about to take off, Morgan Reed-Blake is living the life she dreamed of. She has a man who loves her but with every great love comes great sacrifice, a demand that she and Seth have to face.
How much should each of them give up and for what price? In , Rhonda Laurel gives us a peek at the life shared by a handsome star NFL quarterback with his beautiful entrepreneur wife and the choices each has to make to find and keep love.
3. Giving Birth to Mr. White’s Baby (BWWM Interracial Romance) is number 6 in a long Line of great ebooks following this couple. With a baby on the way, Natasha Schmidt’s dream of a happy family is finally coming true. Her journey – and his – to becoming one-half of a happy couple has not been easy. And although Mitchell has given her love and unquestioning support before, will they be able to overcome misunderstandings in order to build a life that they and their new baby deserve?
JA Fielding’s new offering explores the problems many new mothers face – body and personal grooming issues included – and provides us with an intimate look at the lives of two people in love who also has to undergo the trials and tribulations of that married couples often face. Story by BWWM Club, who write some of the around. 2. Exit Strategy Fans of the Ghetto Girl Romance series can finally heave a sigh of relief with the release of LV Lewis’ . This latest installment finds Tristan and Keisha in a bind… and not just the leather and silk kind.
As in love as they are, certain things in their lives cannot be stopped and Keisha has decided to cut her ties with her handsome lover. Life has other plans, however and it promptly brings them back together again when Keisha’s past threatens her. Tristan’s dominance over Keisha could either grow into a passionate, mutually-rewarding relationship or it could keep them apart. How far would Tristan go to protect his submissive?
At times funny, at times suspenseful, at times dramatic, this romance novel is for fans of BDSM and the type of romances that break convention. 1. The Masseuse (G.O.N.Y. – Double Dragon) So, gets number one spot!
A private spa, a beautiful young woman, a man with talented hands and all the intimacy requisite of a very heavy first encounter. As a successful career woman, Jezebel Carter knows how to take charge and will not allow herself to be taken for a fool but the male masseuse at the spa is just too irresistible. He may or may not be a real spa employee but the point is lost on Jezebel. He wants her as well but he hides a secret that could tear them apart.
Violette Dubrinsky’s The Masseuse is about two very strong-willed individuals whose lives become intertwined after their first meeting. Their love, however, is threatened by distrust, lies and misconstrued statements. If it survives, they would both have the love and unbridled passion they have longed for. If it does not, it would leave both broken and bitter for a love that could not be. So there you have it, the 10 best interracial romance novels and ebooks in the BWWM genre!
So from the above list, which ones have your read? And which one is your favorite?
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