Having a friend date your crush can be a difficult social situation to navigate. With your feelings, as well as those of your friend and your crush on the line, it can be extremely difficult to be sure what the right course of action is to take. If you aren’t careful, you stand to hurt both your relationship with your friend and your crush, but your feelings may be strong enough to warrant the risk If your friend really cares about your crush, the right thing to do may be to see how things go. If your friend doesn’t seem to feel too seriously about your crush, he or she may understand if you tell them about how you feel The best way to deal with situations like this is to approach your friend and discuss it with them honestly. If your friend would do such a thing, they likely aren't really your friend.
The butterfly feeling you get when the person you 're crushing on likes you back is hands downÂ one of the most amazing feelings in the world. And that sinking feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when your crush doesn 't like you back is probably one of the worst.
(Photo Credit: Aleshyn_Andrei via ) But, that 's life. Sometimes, feelings are mutual. And, sometimes, they 're not. And while the pain of not being liked back may stingÂ briefly, you may find that these situations will make you a stronger, more independent you. If the feelings from your crush aren 't being reciprocated, we 're here to help you keep your coolÂ with these seven easy steps.ðŸ‘† 1. Don 't Force Anything If the person you 're crushin ' onÂ has expressed that they 're not interested in you in the same way, then let it go.
The worst thing you can do at this point is build up false hope that something could still happen. Accept that you two might just be made to be friends and recognize that you deserve someone who knows they like you for you! You shouldn 't have to do any convincing. 2. Put Yourself in Their Shoes It may be hard, but respect your crush 's decision and be thankful that they didn 't lead you on. Consider what you would do if you were them. Haven 't you everÂ thought an individual was super great, but you weren 't interested in being more than friends with them?
If that 's how your crush feels about you, you can 't blame them, it happens sometimes. (Photo Credit: Andrew Guillem via ) 3. Still Be Friendly Just because the person you like doesn 't like like you, it doesn 't mean you have to totallyÂ eliminate them from your life. In fact, if you guys started out as friends, there 's absolutely no reason why you shouldn 't try and maintain aÂ friendship.
You don 't have to be besties, but this person obviously meant or means a lot to you, so be kind and understanding and do your best to be friendly. They 'll love that you 're being the bigger person. ðŸ˜Š 4. Focus on Other Relationships Real talk: Why stress about this relationship, when you probably have a dozen other ones that will have a more positive influence on your life?!
Spend time with the ones who know and love you best, i.e. your besties, your family and even your pets. By spending time with them, you 'll easily be reminded of what a catch you are, and your sadness will melt away. (Photo Credit: Zurijeta via ) 5. Focus on You Guess what, as clich Ã© as it may sound, it 's really their loss, not yours. You already have soÂ much going for you, so instead of letting your sadness get the best of you, focus on all of yourÂ amazing qualities and do activities that make you feel happy and empowered.
Go on a run, paint your nails or call a friend. You are your No. 1 priority right now, and that 's pretty awesome. 6. Distract Yourself If you 're still feeling a little blue, the best solution is to distract yourself from anything that willÂ make you think of your crush.
Try finding a show to binge watch on Netflix, pick up a new hobby, read a book or just spend some quiet time doing yoga or meditating. Cleanse your thoughts of your crush and you 'll feel infinitely better. (Photo Credit: Mita Stock Images via) 7. Move on Above all, just know that you can and will move on. Trust us when we say that you 'll have many more crushes and crush ees in your life. So, maybe this one didn 't work out, but there could be a nicer, smarter person just around the corner who will be completely smitten by you.
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I would like to answer this from my personal experience. I had a crush on my very good friend in high school. Initially I was sure that it was just an infatuation and would go away eventually, but that did not happen, and I ended up growing more and more fond of her.
Eventually, I decided that I had to get rid of these feelings because the friendship was too valuable for me, so I tried to distance myself from her. However, that didn't work out either, because after every week or so if we hadn't spoken, she would strike up a conversation, and with all the means of communication these days, its pretty hard to stay away. And the chemistry between us was just too good. We were both extremely introverted, almost to the point of suffering from social phobia, but when we were together, time would just fly.
Two years went by. School life was done and it was time for college. I had to move to a different city, in a different country. I thought that this would help me in finally getting over her.
My college campus was an hour away from the city. As fate would have it, she too got an admit to a reputed medical school in the same city. But her campus was also an hour away from the city on the other side, so the chances of us meeting would be pretty rare, if ever. Three months went by, and our conversations became few and far between.
Both of us had become very busy with college life and adapting to a new place. I was finally beginning to get over her, yay! Another three months later, I went to the city(an hour away) with my friends, and guess who I bump into as soon as I enter a shopping mall?
Yes, her! In a split second, all those feelings came rushing back again. Oh great. Anyways, from then on we started getting close again, and my feelings for her grew stronger still.
Not a single day passed that I did not think about her. It was driving me crazy and there was nothing I could do. Finally, I decided I didn't have a choice but to come out clean and tell her everything. I spoke with her about it, told her I used to have a small crush on her back in high school. She told me that she liked me too(To this day I'm unsure if she was telling the truth or just being nice).
However, I conveniently skipped out the part that I was still into her :P Even after this conversation, things stayed the same between us, still very good friends, and yet my feelings showed no signs of relenting. Finally, after yet another month of this, I asked her out. She hesistated initally, the next day she said yes. :) After three and a half years, I had successfully left the friendzone :D So yeah, coming back to your question, it depends on how big of a crush you have.
If you think you can successfully get over it, well and good, the other person does not need to know. If you can't, then you might as well do something about it. Good luck! :) Ask yourself two questions: 1. How your best friend is going to react when he/she will come to know about your crush? 2. Does that reaction has a potential of ruining your friendship? If your crush has a hint about your crush on them, and does not feel the same way, and if it is taking a toll on your friendship then its time to let go of your feelings.
You must value your friendship more than your feelings for your crush, why because once you start dating your best friend you might or might not end up being happy with each other.
If suppose its 'might not' situation then you will not be able to remain friends. Friends are really difficult to come by and the best ones, are rare.
So keep it till friends, maybe someday they will have the same feelings even if it does not turn out to be so, you can still cherish your friendship.
I don’t really ‘get over’ things like this because there is nothing to get over in the first place. They are just different aspects of life. As individuals, human beings are capable of having dynamic thought processes, the ability to do and feel many different things throughout their life times concurrently and separately. If I have a crush on one or more of my friends, that’s it.
They are just crushes. It doesn’t mean I can’t function beyond those crushes. If I decide for whatever reason not to pursue those crushes, it means I do other things. Heck, even if I do pursue them, I will still do other things. Other things include: • My career. • My hobbies. • My health. • My friends. • My wife. ;) • My pets. • My family. • Home improvement. • Video games. • Puzzles. • Etc. I see there are many things in life I can never have.
I accept that fact and just live with that knowledge. It doesn’t really bother me. Sometimes I think about it and I sigh, then shrug it off. It doesn’t impede that I want to eat a Peach Yogurt, nor impede me into dating other women, nor impede my ability to enjoy playing Minecraft on our server.
^_^ It’s just one of many infinite of things in each of our lives. DISCLAIMER: As per the member’s comment. I never said I would date other women while being married. I thought that would be kind of obvious, coinciding… Never mind. ^_^ ♥ From my experience I met this girl at the beginning of my college ,we shared the same class i found her attractive so asked her but eventually we ended up becoming very close friends i might have romantic feelings with her but it was too vauge at that point ,we had been friends for 2 years almost and in between i also hit on other girls too because with her, it was confusing i thought she never thought of me in that way .
Then one day she comes to me and said she had to tell me something important ,then she said she was in relationship with other guy from her high school but broke up last few months ago ,whrn i heard that i felt very strange i felt things which i wasnt suppose to feel ,i somehow felt betrayed and angry then after few days i realised i have more feelings for her rather than a best friend ,i confessed my feelings to her well but our feelings were not mutual ,she also said that she dont want to come in relationship with anyboy for few years now ,i was miserable and depressed at that point ,i started doing drugs drinking it was a horrible nightmare and watching her everyday at class and sitting next go her was splitting my heart at that point only few months were left for our college to end ,i somehow subsided mg feelings trying to be normal again like we used to be but i could not able to do that ,it was full of agony i started overthinking things so i thought maybe if i try to know her more or more about her ex it will give me closure somehow but she said that still are still complicated with her ex ,that made me feel more miserable after that i somehow survived few months at college ,i tried to made some friends it was very dark period for me we were not zame the way we used to be and one day she said she felt jealous that i was friends with other girls that they were taking her place ,later our college ended , i minimised my contact with her one day while we were texting she said that her ex was crying and whatnot and begging for her to be in relationship,she said that she needed my advice on it that it shouldn't affect our friendship i was so angry at that point i said go ahead do whatever you want to do its not my choice and told her to never bring her ex up in any conversation ,later she got into a college i minimised my contacts with her ,i still talk to her sometimes but its not the same now I dont know how it happened whose fault it was and dont really now whats gonna happen in future ,but i know that i am at better place than how i wise few years back i cut my drinking i reduced my smoking It may have been beautiful ,but i dont know what fate is intended to be Let me know what you guys think
(Let's call my crush Todd, and my best friend Laura) SO LONG STORY SHORT, the guy I have liked for almost a year now had started dating my best friend... (Let's call my crush Todd, and my best friend Laura) SO LONG STORY SHORT, the guy I have liked for almost a year now had started dating my best friend about a month ago. Laura, Todd and I were all in the same math class last school year (this is how we both met him), and he mostly talked to me, while rarely speaking with her.
He had always paid attention to me and made so much effort to talk to me that many people had accused him of liking me. I really thought he did too... he'd call and leave me voicemails in the middle of class just to tell me to move to sit next to him, he called me pretty, he had his friend prankcall me asking for relationship advice about me, he immediately told me to say no to another guy that liked me, and so on.
Whenever people accused us of being a couple or dating, he'd just laugh and didn't seem awkward about it. Keep in mind that Laura and Todd rarely spoke to each other, at least when I was around. So when I found out they liked each other, I was completely depressed and in denial.
I just did not see it coming at all. It turned out that they texted a lot over the summer and got closer from that. He claimed that he liked her since the beginning of last year, and his only explanation for him mostly talking to me instead of her was that I was "easier to talk to." They both know I liked him but think I'm over it now, when I'm really not.
I have to deal with seeing them act like a couple everyday, and it's so painful. How do I get over him? I feel for you, something similar happened to me on a school exchange. He's a coward if he tried to talk to you just to get to her and your supposed "best friend" should have been way more cautious about the whole thing.
Whilst thats out of the way getting over him takes time. You should try and distract yourself, throw yourself into something you like doing or find someone else you enjoy spending time with. I always feel that if this guy and your best friend don't work out then he'll want someone to talk to and if he comes to you and sees your spending time with someone else and it doesn't phase you...
he'll get real jealous. ;) keep your chin up hun you got this xoxo Well don't send him hate messages. If you do that there is a good chance that you will get expelled.
What you should do is tell her to back off from... Well don't send him hate messages. If you do that there is a good chance that you will get expelled. What you should do is tell her to back off from him and tell him embarrassing things about her. Just don't make it look like you want him really bad. Omg i know that feeling really sorry to say this.. ive been there too.. the best thing to do is to try and move on to another guy.. i wouldnt advise liking...
Omg i know that feeling really sorry to say this.. ive been there too.. the best thing to do is to try and move on to another guy.. i wouldnt advise liking him still because that will really hurt your feelings especially when you talk to him i'd say temporary cut all communications with him first and when things get better then you can decide to still talk to him or not. Can you help me too? I know how it feels, a very similar thing happened to me.
Don't make decisions you'll regret. If you want the friendship more than the boy than make... I know how it feels, a very similar thing happened to me. Don't make decisions you'll regret. If you want the friendship more than the boy than make sure you don't lose "Laura". If you want the boy try not to ruin your friendship with "Tod" either Asking costs 5 points and then choosing a best answer earns you 3 points!
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