the thing is that i love my best friends so very much. but she doesnt feel the same for me. she has feeling for someone else and they both are dating. i cant do anything. i just have to see them together. i feel that i should stop talking to her, but she being my best friend i cant do that. she needs. me through . show more the thing is that i love my best friends so very much. but she doesnt feel the same for me. she has feeling for someone else and they both are dating. i cant do anything. i just have to see them together. i feel that i should stop talking to her, but she being my best frie .
Falling in love with and then subsequently dating your best friend obviously a well-worn , but can it ever actually work out IRL? Sure, your significant other is supposed to be your best friend, but some buddies never pursue a romance out of fear that they'll break up and ruin their relationship in the process.
Things can get tricky in a hurry. To see how friendships-turned-romances really play out, we asked women what actually happened when they . The results are surprisingly mixed (and occasionally hilarious): "It ruined our friendship" "I dated someone I was close friends with in high school from my senior year of high school through my junior year of college.
I wish we never did because when we broke up, even though it was amicable, I lost someone that otherwise could have been a friend for life. He was a really special person, and although it wouldn't have worked out romantically, I would give anything to go back in time and keep him as a friend." —Jessica, 29 "It ruined other friendships" "Our relationship grew out of a very close friendship, and for a little over a year, it was wonderful.
It seemed like the perfect idea: date an already-close friend. The trust is already there, you already have the structures and habits in place for hanging out together, and adding sex into the mix is just a bonus. But then it went bad. Awfully, horrendously bad. Initially, the problems stemmed from the slow-burn of our relationship and the fact that we never really sat down and defined what we were doing.
Were we dating? FWB? We had different expectations for the relationship, and from there, we were doomed. The unhappy ending to the story is that both of us lost friends over it. Of our mutual friends, there was a clear delineation of who stuck with him versus me, and there has been little to no crossing of the aisle." —Meg, 27 "A different side of him came out" "After just a couple of months, he seemed to become a different person from the friend I'd known for so long.
He became incredibly possessive, wanted to know where I was at all times, and discouraged me from leaving the house without him. He started talking a lot about 'when we get married and have kids,' while I was thinking, get me out of here. Over the course of a few months, I tried to improve things and even suggested counseling, but those attempts only made things worse, and he escalated to hacking into my email to read the messages I was sending to my best friend, in which I detailed my concerns and fear about his behavior.
He went into a rage, accused me of betraying his trust by confiding in her (hundreds of miles away), and told me to leave. I blocked him on social media and email, and it's now been five-plus years since we had any communication." —Chelsea, 37 "The sex was awful" "When we finally hooked up, the sex was so bad that I could barely stand to look him in the face. I tried to break it off—without mentioning the reason why—and over the next week or so he reached out to me with several desperate text messages, saying that he thought we 'had something real' and didn't understand what had gone so wrong.
We would often run into each other in our group of friends after that, so it took all the acting chops I could muster to keep our mortifying hookup a secret from everyone else, including his ex-girlfriend. I still occasionally run into him, and to this day I'm always so mortified by the whole thing that I can barely talk to him." —Christine C.
"The relationship didn't last, but the friendship did" "We broke up but remained friends because we had that previous foundation." —Kat, 32 "It lasted two days" "We dated two days before I became positive I was a lesbian, then we stopped communicating at all because he was in love and shit." —Tanya, 28 "It lasted five years and counting" "We were friends for a year.
We dated for four and a half, then broke up for six months. We're back together again, and I'm pretty sure this is forever (for now). Marriage is in the future and that feels pretty weird. Can't wait to raise puppies and live in the desert." —Cassie, 23 "We became a power couple" "We fell madly in love, moved from NYC to Detroit, and started a company together. We are still together and happy after three years." —Alex, 26 "We lived happily ever after." "I married him." —Stephanie, 26 ©2018 Condé Nast.
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Dating your best friend is the best. While I wouldn't suggest (in my experience you're better off maintaining the friendship), you should aim to be best friends with the person you date, especially if you're in a long term or serious relationship. Dating your best friend just makes being in a relationship that much more delicious. And it doesn't mean that person is your only best friend. As Dr. Mindy Lahiri has taught us, , not a person.
So while you'll still have your childhood BFF, your college BFF and your work BFF, having your boyfriend or girlfriend BFF is the cherry on top of your BFF cake.
There are good things, obviously, about dating your best friend, and also a few troublesome things — but if you ask me, the good outweighs the bad.
Like doing all the things BFFs do and then also getting to have sex at the end of the day. It's The Dream. Not just any dream, THE DREAM. Don't pretend like you never wished you could transplant the brain and personality of your best friend into the person you're sleeping with. We've all done it. Here are some of the things that, for better or for worse, happen when you're dating your best friend: 1.
You're Comfortable The best thing about dating your best friend is the comfort level. You can say anything, act how you feel, wear your sweats or your party dress and everything is just marvelous. Being comfortable around the person you're dating is a real weight off your shoulders, especially when so much of the start of a relationship is spent trying to impress. 2. Like, Maybe Too Comfortable But then of course you'll lie on the couch together picking zits and farting, and maybe sometimes that kills the romance a bit.
But I say whatever. Some days you have a flatulent time, and the next day you have a sexy time. It's all part of being best friends with your SO. 3. You Can Just Hang Out Together Doing Nothing You know when all your friends want to get boozey but you just want to sit around in silence eating pizza in your underpants?
Well when your SO is your best friend, you always have someone to do nothing with, and it's just as fun as a night on the town. 4. But When You Do Stuff It's An Adventure But then when you do get out of the house everything is an adventure. Think about how a night with your high school bestie goes — is the answer anywhere and everywhere? The same will happen when you're best friends with your SO, where you'll find yourselves drinking wine on a foreign stoop, dancing 'til the sun comes up, getting caught in the rain and instead of rushing for cover, jumping in puddles, meeting strange people on the way and generally having a wild time together and discovering new things, because that's what best friends do.
5. All You Need Is Each Other When you're best friends with your SO, you don't have to go spend time with your partner. You get to go spend time with your bestie. There's something really wonderful about "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" time actually just being best buds time. 6. But Sometimes You Forget Other People The only problem is that sometimes it can be easy not to socialize. Why go to a party and have to be introduced into dozens of conversations with people who are boring, that you'll probably never see again, when you can just stay at home with your lover/best friend?
When everything you need (sex AND friendship) is all in one place, it can be easy to forget about the rest of the world. 7. You're Totally Yourself There's no pretensions with your best friend, and you're free to be your best, and worst, self. 8. You Know Each Other Differently You know when sometimes you're in a relationship with someone and they're your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" and you see them and then you go see your friends and you talk about them to your friends like they're the person you're currently dating, not like they're actually part of you?
When you're with your best friend, you don't gossip about them to your other friends. You think of them differently. They become a part of who you are, like any other good friend, and you merge them with your friends and life in a way you don't with someone you're just dating. 9. You Fear Losing Each Other More Than Anything The best part of dating with your best friend is that you're with your best friend and you have the best relationship you could have ever dreamed of. The worst thing is the stabs of pain in the quiet moments when you think about what would happen if you broke up.
You wouldn't just be losing your boyfriend or girlfriend. You'd be losing your best friend too, which is a far more terrifying thing. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage? Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Way , which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on .
the thing is that i love my best friends so very much. but she doesnt feel the same for me. she has feeling for someone else and they both are dating. i... the thing is that i love my best friends so very much. but she doesnt feel the same for me. she has feeling for someone else and they both are dating. i cant do anything. i just have to see them together. i feel that i should stop talking to her, but she being my best friend i cant do that. she needs me through this phase and i cant leave her.
she knows that seeing her with him hurts me. i cry my *** out at times. i love her so much. i dont know what to do. i cant leave her. i cant see her with him either. and i want to see her happy too.
what do to? I am in the same situation right now as we speak. I love this girl so much but now she only see me as her best friend and nothing more and she is dating... I am in the same situation right now as we speak. I love this girl so much but now she only see me as her best friend and nothing more and she is dating someone else. My heart skipped a beat when she me. I confessed my feelings to her and she said she does not feel that way about me.
So I told her I just cant be her friend and did not speak to hear for about two weeks until today. She sends someone with a message that she misses me and she be telling her friends about the situation. They are telling her to give me time. I told the messenger I had no comment to make. Today she says I am "F**king Unfair!". I wished her all the best and I am trying to move on now with my life. I thinking of moving cross country and start life a new in another city here in Jamaica.
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